what if the love of your life ?

[legend004]

In advance of this thread im posting to say that this is not intended to upset or disturb anyone.
this post is a genuine and honest attempt to get answers , from those willing to participate .and see if everyone feels the same way and if its a matter of age that influences peoples answers / opinions.




SO


If your wife/hubby /patner died .
Would you get involved with another person , perhaps cohabit , even marry ?
Or are you the sort of person whod live a life of solitude?
Never entering into another relationship for fear of desecrating your previous one?
Do you think that its disrespectful to meet someone else?

Would your partner care?
Do you think you could live the rest of your life without emotional contact with a new partner?

Is your love so strong that you would need to spend your life alone ?

Do you think age , not length of relationship ,makes a difference in this situation?

[cazzz1975]

having never been in that situation, If I died I would hope that my partner would find happiness with someone, I think it would be a sad existance to live in solitude in mourning.

[legend004]

Welll many people say that cazz.

[*Princess*]

To be honest, I really think it's different for everyone. People cope in their own ways, some may need to form emotional attachments to others after they lose a partner, some may feel they can never be with anyone ever again.

I guess, it would *seem* that if the person was young and hadn't been with their partner for a long time, it would be 'easier' for them to meet someone else, but then there could be an old lady who's hated her husabnd for 60 years but been to afraid to leave him, then when he dies, gets herself a great life of her own. What I'm saying is that age of person/length of time together/time of life, doesn't predetermine anything - everyone will be different.

It's like grieving - some people can appear to get over it in a short time, whilst others may seem to wallow in it - there is no right or wrong rules, just what is right for that individual person.

[MONTCRIEFF49]

iv got that life

weeeeeeeeeee heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

we have our
understandings
weeeeeeeeeeee heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

im here he not

weheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
i do wat i want
weheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

but he
lvleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
to meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
im lvly to
himeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

i lv you all i lve
lifeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

weheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee


xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[cazzz1975]

they do because you cant bring someone back, you have to learn to move on with your life once you have grieved. your life shouldnt end because theirs does, its not good for everyone concerned to continue mourning for years in favour of living.

[*Princess*]

cazzz1975 - that's logical, we all know it is, but sometimes that's not the way people are.

[cazzz1975]

I agree princess, my friends mom died 6 years ago, for 3 years he wouldnt do anything at all because he was depressed about it, he is starting to venture out now and make some life choices that he wouldnt normally do

I agree its difficult and it can take years to get over but there will be a time when you will function again

[pastafreak]

Part of love is being able to let go...whether thru death, or the breakdown of a relationship. If I trully loved someone, the most important thing I would want for them is their happiness. I would hope that I would be held in their memories, and they in mine.....and I would want them to make the life they need and want-whether alone or with someone...hopefully with a partner because life can be lonely.

[*Princess*]

Good for your friend cazzz1975 :o)

I know it's expected that people will snap out of it eventually, but sadly, that's not always the case. Like the stories you hear of couples that have been together for years, and when one dies, the other does soon after, of a 'broken heart'.

[shanx]

sometimes jumping in to a relationship out of lonleyness is bad , and dont work out , its best to sit back and reflect at the end of the day , and if love comes along ok if not you have lost nothing , jump in feet first ? no way

[pastafreak]

I love the way Legend dumps us in this heavy-duty thread.....and leaves us to it...grrrrrrr!

[shanx]

where is he pasta surrrrfing ? ; )

[meredith101]

Kids would be the biggest factor for me in this decision.

[pastafreak]

Are you saying that whether or not there are children in the relationship will determine how you move on when it ends ??

[shanx]

yeah meredith , they would come first and foremost

[MONTCRIEFF49]

i do legend
as it has happened to
me

i take everything in
my relationship
my family
my past life relationships
my relationships now
my ex hubby never remarried again thank god
most nites i go to bed crying my eyes out
over rows with past relationships
and presents ones
but iv been hurt too many times

but music is my solice now
somtimes it makes me sad
somtimes it makes me cry
and then i tried to forget the lot
not always works
but as i say im me
whos watching me now
th e iras
whos playing tricks on me
ehhhh

think of your self now number 1 xxxxxxxxxx
sleep tight xxxxxxxxxxxxx

[legend004]

i wonder where the moonlight and heartbeats cherubs and cupids go to?



loves great


but the only true everlasting love is your love for your child


thats indisputable


the rest is romantiscised lust talking

[unrulyjulie]

but the only true everlasting love is your love for your child

up to now that is your experience, i like to think that true love is out there and maybe one day i will get it in the way i want it . hope you do too,

[pastafreak]

I thought this thread was about..M/F relationships...THAT kind of love. And sorry...must dissagree leg.......love is NOT 'romanticised lust'......sometimes lust is the least of it.