Preparing for death

[ElbaAvion]

I am suffering from terminal leukemia and waiting for time. I am not prepared to die cos I am still young and vibrant. How do people deal with death when they know it's coming? Isn't it better not to know? I know the famous answer would be get closer to God - what else can they say? But what if we don't want to die....yet?

[Asia]

Dear, do not know how people deal with it.. only 1 who had 2deal with it can truly say.. don’t know either if it's better 2know or not2.. but as u know already -u have 2deal with that knowledge and use it -trying 2make it work 4ya: 1)some say 1 should accept it & just try 2 LIVE(!!!) the time 1 has left 2)others believe that man has an ability 2overcome anything -even death, if finds an inner strength &faith (not necessary in god) - I've read 'bt people who won a fait with worst sicknesses. Hope that whatever u do, u'll find a peace...

[bluedolphin]

Think of the people who are close to u...think what they are feeling ....perhaps ur mum or dad...they are looking at u and inside they are torn apart....I can say from personal experience as a parent that they would take the terrible diseas from u in a split second if they could and accept it themselves....It is harder on the ones left behind....be strong...and ease it a little for ur family, friends....

[Phantaxus]

"Seize the day" which is something we all sould do as none of us know which day will be our last. Try to get as many life experiences in as possible in the time you have left. Raise money for charity. Take a look at Jane Tomlinson an amazing woman and an inspiration to us all http://www.janesappeal.com/

[sammy85]

all i can say is ... try to get closer to God , prepare for judgement day...

[I.R.]

I agree with Phantaxus. No one really knows which day's gonna be one's last, so take each day as a gift, and live life to the fullest! And do get closer to God. That way, you'll find absolute peace. Best wishes.....

[lizw]

My friend died last year - she was 24 and felt very much the same as you and she was leaving behind a two year old little boy. She was not religious and did not have any inherent beliefs to fall back on. She was very bitter for a while but as time went on became calm and dignified and spent her time writing birthday cards and christmas cards for her son up to his 18th birthday. We had great fun and a laugh writing what we thought would be relevant in each one! This made her feel that in some way she would still be with him on each birthday morning and Christmas day. She then began to wonder about life after death and did quite a lot of research. She died peacefully, with her husband and son near her and apparently smiled at the end. I don't know what to tell you - this is a journey only you can go on and only you can deal with. But I firmly believe acceptance is the answer and love is so strong and powerful I doubt very much it stops when you die. I certainly sometimes still feel Karen around me. Good luck. xx

[el duerino]

Don't bother getting closer to a figment of your imagination, if you can deal with this without a made up emotional crutch you are an admirable person. The way I see it, we all die sometime. Accepting that you are part of the cycle of life and death that has existed in this planet for millenia calms me down when I consider it. The one thing I would say is do not let your bitterness of death ruin your life. Many people touch more lives and spread and enjoy more happiness in their short time than people who live to 100. The candle that burns twice as bright burns half as long and all that.

[smudge]

We are all thinking of you, God bless.

[feelap]

Im a Buddhist and have a belief in reincarnation and rebirth. Buddhists believe that everyone in life has a path to follow regardless of whether or not they are Buddhists. I know this might sound harsh and I dont mean to sound horrible but perhaps your path, in this life anyway, is to die younger so that your next life will last longer. You can dismiss my answer as being nonsense but please dont feel hatred towards me. Focus on the times that brought pleasure to yourself and others and gain strength from it. Tell your loved to remember the good times they had with you. 'Carpe Diem' is Latin for 'Seize The Day' all I can suggest now is to do as much as you can and spend as much time doing that. I have prayed for you already and will do after this. Take Care, Have Fun and Love Always XXX

[cheyenne]

number one please read (the healing power of illness) amazing book by thorwald dethlefsen.After that contact a reiki practitioner,learn to meditate and practise using the technique of visualisation to encourage yor body to heal itself.I will send you long distance healing and wish you all the luck in the world.Above all trust in your own unique spirit.

[christina801]

I'm sorry about your illness. But, the best way to deal with death is to accept it and live life to the fullest. I've been pregnant twice and for some reason I had an eeery feeling that I was going to micarry and I did, twice. The way I dealt with it was grieving (for years), put on weight, and just lash out on my loved ones. Thats when I realized that you have to take control of your life and just accept things as they come and be strong. I hope this answer helps. take care.

[conkl]

The only thing you need to do is become closer to god. Your life on earth is short but your life with god will last eternity. In heaven things will be perfect and you will no longer suffer, so be prepared for judgement day and by all means pray and become very close with your father in heaven because he's waiting for you. God loves you. I wish you the best of luck, god bless.