boy problems!plz help

[kezia_88]

Im 15 and met this boy through my boy mate who fancies me and first of all he said he thought my best friend was really pretty which made me sad because I liked him although he has a girlfriend. Anyway I told one of my mates who knows him I thought he was really fit and he found out and text me askin me if this was true I sed yes. I met up with him and with his mate the one who likes me and afterwards he started texting me saying he liked me and wanted 2 meet up I was happy but what bout his gf? I spoke 2 him on the phone and he wanted me to go round for some fun I told him I didnt want to he understood then one night when all his mates and my mates met up he text me sayin come round the corner I need 2 speak to u. I went and we were talking and he goes I really want to kiss you I go what about your gf everyone tells me how in love you are with her he said he loved her but wasnt in love whatever that means?Anyway I know this is really bad but he then kissed me and told me to wait till he finished with his gf so now I am but people are telling me they plannin their future and stuff and its like hes blanked me all of a sudden and now hes gone back to sayin how fit my best mate is!Im so confused does he like me?Am I meant to wait for him 2 finish with his gf?Now hes going around saying how sweet me and the boy who likes me look good together and hes acting like nothings happened plz unconfuse me sum1 I duno wot 2 do! thanks ps sorry its really long!

[Doolallygirl]

Sounds like a lowlife! Move on, go out with one of his friends. Change your group of friends. Anything just don't get with him! If he can cheat on his girlfriend, he could cheat on you too! DON'T LET HIM!

[andytreble99]

he's not worth bothering with, he's an @rse. don't even bother thinking about him

[smudge]

I wouldn't bother getting involved with this boy. Enjoy your life until the right one comes along!

[MINISOOMS]

hi i know its hard at your age iv been there,but honestly its best just to forget him ,men say all sorts of stuff but its how he conducts himself and the way he treats you that counts ,good luck

[Casey]

I agree with everyone else, he is one of those who will cheat on you. If you act like you are not bothered, and start seeing ither guys, I bet that he will get jealous then and want to start 'seeing' you again. He wants the best of both worlds. Just forget him, it might seem hard now but it will get easier. And if I were you I would text him and tell him he needs to sort his head out. It is also very unlikely that him and his girlfriend will last, she will eventually see him for who he really is. Just enjoy yourself, have fun! Don't get tied down with one guy at 15, you've got the rest of your life to do that.

[Casey]

sorry, I meant to say start seeing 'other' guys

[Doolallygirl]

My sister got involved with a boy when she was 13 and went out with him for 8 years before realising what a d!ck he was. Don't do the same. In fact the more you ignore his existance the more he will want you anyway! But don't touch him with a barge pole!

[kezia_88]

thanks for all ur answers but its so hard for me to just move on because I really like him and for once I just want to be happy it seems all my friends are finding bfs and I just wanna be happy it just never seems 2 be my turn if u know what i mean? :(

[Gibbo]

One day it will be your turn, until then try and get on with things. It is not something you can rush. I had a boyfriend when I was 14 and it lasted until I was 18. I was so gutted, but not at the fact we broke up (as we are still friends) but I felt I had got too serious too young and had wasted 4 years of my life. When all my friends were going out having fun, I was stuck inside with my boyfriend arguing with him like mad! The guy you mention does not sound like a decent bloke at all, and if he is the same age as you he has a lot of growing up to do. Remember, men are not as mature headed as girls! There are some good men out there, just be patient and wait until you find the right one.

[gemagination]

Kezia do you see a bit of pattern here, everyone thinks this guy is a waste of your time! Don't worry about getting yourself a boyfriend, everyone goes through phases when they feel like their being left behind, but like all the others ABer's have mentioned there's plenty of time for that stuff. Just have fun with people you can trust and let the good times role because you'll be older before you know it and it definately doesn't get any easier. good luck and don't let this guy mess with yur head he is definately not worth it!

[FTVS]

kezia this guy is a manipulative idiot. However you are clearly going to forge ahead and make your own mistakes (just like we all did at 15). Try not to feel too stupid when you look back on this and try not to lose any friends in the process.

[Nala]

kezia, there's a word for guys like that...........********. he sounds manipulative, immature and a right arse. Move on. hav a girly nite in with your m8s. watch videos, eat ice cream and bitch about all thats wrong with the world. It always works 4 me. then write a letter to him telling him exactley what you think of him. even if you don't send it. trust me it helps. and this will probably happen in the future too. you just have to learn how to sort the pricks from the decent blokes. which, although it may not seem like it now, do still exist. and bsides you've got plenty of time to find a nice guy. hope all the advice helps. chin up. love nala xxxx

[sammy85]

sounds like he's a player, do not trust him

[conkl]

Before i Had a situation just like that see i liked this guy named Dustin and he had a girlfriend but he flirted with me all the time and I flirted with him. We even kissed. But I eventually asked him out hoping he would go out with me and dump his other girlfriend because Dustin had told me that he didn't like his girlfriend and that he only liked me. Well he broke up with his other girlfriend went out with me for a day then broke up with me and said he still had feelings for his ex. So i learned first hand. So my opinion is that you should just forget about him cause he's a jerk anyhow for leading you on like that. You probably still have a little bit of feelings for him though cause you 2 kissed and everything, well thats how it was with me anyway but you should get over that eventually, i did. Theres other fish in the sea.

[kelsc25]

sweetheart.... he's not worth your time, and if you can't see that......................... you need to open your eyes darling

[bubble251]

I've been it that kind of situation before. But it all turned out good. I know its really hard to move on. but wut i did was just wait. because if he really loved that girl, do you honestly think that he would have told you all that stuff. i think he loves you. you need to follow your heart, dont listen to other people, that will just leed you to do the wromg thing. dont worry, every thing wiil turn out ok.