A difficult time :0(

[Suzanne1981]

Hello, ive just gone through the most horrendous break-up EVER and could do with some comforting! Id been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years, i loved him dearly and I know he loved me very much, BUT i always struggled to accept his relationship with his ex-girlfriend (who he has a child with) throughout the 4 years he made lots of little mistakes, (txting her flirty msg/calling me her name) although they were only small things they really hurt!

Over the past few months especially ive been finding it difficult to trust him with her, and found my self checking his phone calls which i know is wrong! Last night I had a glimpse of his phone and saw that he was on the phone to her for an hour from 11pm - 12pm saturday night. He said he has never cheated and isnt even interested in his ex but they are good friends and always would be! i was furious coz in nearly 4 yrs we never spent an hour on the phone! I told him it was over, and he said that it wasnt working anyway because of my 'paranoia'! Anyways i'm distraught, i know we could never work it out because Id constantly feel jealous of their relationship...some friendly words please to help me through this hard time, thanks x

[Fairie]

aww it is a shame 4 years is a long time, but if he wanted to be with his ex he wouldn't have bothered with you surely, especially for 4 years, but without trust there is nothing, have some fun, meet with friends and try to get over him, but, dont be mad at him, it takes longer to heel when your angry! x

[Babyblues]

You were right to do what you did. either he was in a relationship with you or with her not both wether it was physical or not there was an emotional relationship with her that is a form of cheating to. you deserve someone who is all about you.

[ftj001]

I really feel for you. You have to ask yourself do you want to live like that for the rest of your life. Hell no! I know its easier said than done. If he really wanted to be with you he would work through your paranoia and their is absolutely no reason for him to be on the phone with her for an hour. If he needs to talk to her it should be about the baby. I think he still loves her.