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I have just discovered that my partner has been an alcohlic for over 20 years...how do i help him to have the courage to stop drinking before it kills him...
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Alcoholics hide it well -just ask Leg -he seems to think I am on the juice on here altho privately he knows i'm not !!
Anyway -its possible -a lot of people lead normal lives but are dependant daily -usually come night time -an alcoholic is not stereotyically a jaikie lying in the gutter with white lighning -my advice would obviously to attempt to at least recognise it and try to get him to cut bak initially -if he can maintain that then he should be OK but if continues to lapse then he has to come off totally -its down to whether it manages you or you can manage it -thats the difference.
Try that with him first see how he gets on -it may not be as bad as it seems -time will tell tho .Good Luck x
Anyway -its possible -a lot of people lead normal lives but are dependant daily -usually come night time -an alcoholic is not stereotyically a jaikie lying in the gutter with white lighning -my advice would obviously to attempt to at least recognise it and try to get him to cut bak initially -if he can maintain that then he should be OK but if continues to lapse then he has to come off totally -its down to whether it manages you or you can manage it -thats the difference.
Try that with him first see how he gets on -it may not be as bad as it seems -time will tell tho .Good Luck x
I have been with this guy since January..we don't live together so it has taken a while for me to fully realise the situation...I have had a few clues along the way but it is only within the past month that the penny has finally dropped...I have convinced him to go see his doc, which will happen next week..getting him to admit to me that he is an alcoholic is one of the hardest things I have ever done..his family have known for years but have never offered to support him, instead they have condemned him and made him feel even more **** than he already does.I have tried over the past few weeks to get them to understand a wee bit about addiction and how it affects people, i think I am getting through to them slowly..I need help to be able to help him to save himself before it is too late.
Hey Elvis, I dont live with my partner so it has taken a long time for the jigsaw to come together..my advice to you is to tell the guy at your work work that you and others are aware that he is drinking on the job beofre he gets to the stage that my bloke is at....several folk are keeping note of when he is under the influence at work...I reckon the fact that nobody has challenged him about it makes him think all is well, therefore he doesnt have a problem cause he can drink and still hold down a job....
You're on a dangerous path here and need to be careful. Addicts (any kind) can not be saved and are manipulative by definition. It is usually only when they hit rock bottom or are in grave danger of doing so that help is saught and I strongly believe has to be done off their own back and the only thing anyone should do is point them in the right direction.
As to how you can not know. There's a term known as functioning alcoholic and the stereotype of a beer for breakfast is not always the case.
As to how you can not know. There's a term known as functioning alcoholic and the stereotype of a beer for breakfast is not always the case.
Elvis just for the record at approx 4.30 this afternoon he accused me of being drunk when i had just parked my car up and I was sitting her cathing up after a hectic day -now that nonsense perpetuates urban myths and was out of order -so therefore thats why I started my post with that comment as its unfaur to basically call someone a lush when he know prvately I rarely touch it.
I am sorry clydserani -I did try to give you some advice but they have crawled out the woodwork when they saw my name mentioned. -over to you Dabees the stage is set ...........
I am sorry clydserani -I did try to give you some advice but they have crawled out the woodwork when they saw my name mentioned. -over to you Dabees the stage is set ...........
I've just had a thought actually.... Alcoholics Annoynimous (sp) have a service for the family members adn partners of alcoholics and I think it might be benneficial to you to speak to them too. Just google them and you'll get the number.
Good luck to you but please remember that you can not save an addict, only support them and sometimes supporting them means letting them go. They really do have to do it themselves. I hope it all works out for you.
Good luck to you but please remember that you can not save an addict, only support them and sometimes supporting them means letting them go. They really do have to do it themselves. I hope it all works out for you.