cancer seriuos answers only please

[misundrstood]

ive just found out my dad has a very small (1 centimetre) thats cancerous growth on his lungs can anyone give me sites to look at also because of his breathing condition they cant give him an operation or chemo but they might give him radiotherapy so sites to this specific location would be welcome and can you put your experiences if you had them to my e-mail onesimmo1~hotmail.com i would be very gratefull for any and all serious responses this seems like a nice site so i have been brave enough to put this on here please no stupid comments

[raysparx1]

Hi misunderstood, you are not alone, many on this site have had, or have relatives that have had cancer so please don't be afraid to talk, my wife has had breast cancer and is still well and very active, advances are being made daily, please look at this site it is excellent, hope all goes well with whatever treatment your dad has, Ray

http://www.cancerbackup.org.uk/Home

[misundrstood]

many thanx ray i appreciate your fast response

[tigwig]

Hi misundrstood, really sorry to hear about your dad. However like ray has said it is not the death sentence most people think. Radiotherapy is a one of the options available to treat people with cancer and I wish your dad all the best. Can you speak with the specialist nurse who will be involved in your dad's care? He/she would be able to give you far more info and offer support too. Take carexxx

[mars06]

emedicine.com is a good site if you need medical info xx

[BRAVO1]

Very very sorry to hear that...

My mother had lung cancer as the primary source the secondary was sadly in her brain.

From experience if he doe's have Chemotherapy try and ensure that he has this at home...this is possible.

Hospitals by there nature are dirty and dangerous places.

Avoid un-necessary contact with anyone other than family, and don't allow any children with colds to go near him.

If he has a stay in hospital, remember these chemo drugs strip the body of good and bad cells, he will be suspectable to infection..

Don't be afraid to ask the doctors any questions.

Be there for him, and reassure him, call McMillian nurse advice line for help and guidence.

Most of all be brave - I know thats sometimes hard, but crying and being upset in from of your Dad won't help..

Remember - The soul of a person lives on forever, we only rent these things called bodies.

All the very best to you and your Dad, and god bless xx

[Boadicea1413]

hey misundrstood,

I had chemo surgery and radiotherapy and am still here 2 years remission am also a hospice nurse so I know rom experience and work that its not all doom, make sure you have contact with your local macmillan nurse get details from your GP they Macmillan can help with a lot of stuff money worries as well

Good luck

[raysparx1]

Hi , me again, I should have said, the most important things to remember are, he and all of you must stay 100% positive, keep looking forward, and keep laughing, your sense of humour is priceless, so talk, laugh and keep smiling even though at times it is hard, good luck, Ray

[CAJ1]

I'm sorry to hear your bad news. Earlier in the year my boyfriends dad had a tumour on the spine. It was from one ear to the other and there was a fairly large possibility he might have died or been paralysed from an operation to remove it. If it had been left he would have died as it was getting so big. He was so positive and went ahead with the op despite the surgeon telling him he may kill him doing it. He came through the other side and is fine despite everyone thinking he was going to die. He is now at home recovering, he's not even paralysed! I think his positivity helped him through it and by some miracle he's still here and in fine working order. His tumour only happens to 1 in 10,000 people and it was only the 2nd the surgeon had seen. I'm telling you this to show you that if you keep your chin up it can really help and miracles really do happen! x

[misundrstood]

a very big thankyou to all much appreciated

[BRAVO1]

God Bless you and your Dad xx

[misundrstood]

Can anyone tell me how to close this posting please,my dad saw it and went mad at me.
Sadly he didn't appreciate that i and the rest of the family need information and this is a great fast and easy way of getting it.
my dad is old soldier type, you know stiff upper lip.
Thankyou all once again.

[ruthann58]

it is a great shock to your dad so be patient with him let him rant and rave, cry , if he needs to, he probably will do all these things when he is alone .he will realiese in time that you all need this information to help you all cope with this as you are all in this with him. good luck there are lots of us to talk to when you need us ruthxx

[misundrstood]

ruthann58 my thankyou is with you