a moment before death

[MrLee-Gend]

Im sure everyone has a particular story about someone in their family dying?I wont ask anyones or go into mine either.As its irrelevant to the question to be specific , but still.So weve all had people , family , die.When you look back on the circumstances of those deaths ,how they happened.Do you ever think to yourself that if only a little thing had been changed.I dont mean like the death averted as thats in gods power , if he exists.But a little thing like the person spending some time with you.Having some fun.You may have been estranged from them.You might not have been on the best of terms.But if you could change the lead up to the death but not the outcome.How many of us would wish for a last word or just 5 minutes , not to say i love you i miss you etc.But just to be there to talk , and let those loved ones know , without saying to them , that you care , you love them,and one day you will miss them.But just to have that moment.


What would you give for 5 minutes?

And what would you say?









" Monday , the start of another good week : - ) "

[andrea81]

Very though provoking question Leg!

My grampy died before he was able to see his case for emphasemia from mining being awarded! So I think he'd wish to see that happen!

But for me, I only wish I had introduced my gramp to my now husband when we were dating! He was in hospital and me and hubby had just got together, so didn't think it was appropriate!

Wish I had now, he would have like my hubby I'm sure!

[MrLee-Gend]

thats what i was meaning andrea .i know everyone would like to tell their loved ones they love them and the like .but that aside i think little things men alot more .im sure they knew you loved them everyone .

[funnygirl]

This brings back sad memories.

As you may well know my mum died from cancer. I was visiting her in hospital and I always remember this, I left her Saturday night to go home and she was in great spirits, sitting up talking and laughing. I gets there sunday morning, and I just could not believe the change in her. She had gone into a coma and from then all downhill. But I just wished we could have recaptured that saturday again.

[MrLee-Gend]

Yep funny to go back to the day before eh ?

[B00]

Events are as they are.

If we spent thoughts on "what if i'd said this, done that" etc we'd all be clinically depressed.

[andrea81]

Ahh this has got me all weepy now!

Also just to add, me and my gran always had a thing where I would kiss her goodbye and then I'd 'always go back and give her a second and say "got to have two kisses!"

But the last time I saw her alive, I only kissed her once, I always thought that I should have gone back for another one!

[4getmenot]

Its really strange because anyone that I have lost friends or family I have seen either on the day or just before and managed to either say hello, see how they were getting on or tell them how much I loved them

[MrLee-Gend]

Well i guess so .But this isnt a what if i had said i loved them or change the events that led up to someones deathquestion.It is a simple question no more no less.

Everyones different but ive never met anyone yet that wouldnt like 5 more minutes.

But i guess it takes allsorts.

[Lakitu]

I'm just about reaching for the tissues too!

I said my goodbye to my Granda before he started getting pumped with morphine, I thanked him for everything that he had done for me, I told him I love him very much, and he said the same to me. I have no regrets on that score.

My heart aches for my sister in law though, her Dad died last Summer, her Mum has been gone for many years so I can only imagine that when she had her baby, she would have wished for them to see what she did.

[MrLee-Gend]

4get then youve been very lucky in unfortunate circumstances.If you imagine that you hadnt then im sure youll realise how lucky you have been.

Sorry andrea wasnt meant to upset .I posted this on another site and thought id post it here after thinking about it.

[4getmenot]

yes I guess so, I always told my nan I loved her when I said goodbye so I know those were my last words there. But all my other friends that killed themselves or died in car crashes for some reason I saw them just before even when I hadnt seen them for months beforehand.

[4getmenot]

Infact one I'm glad I didnt see alot closer to their death as was supposed to be with them on a trip when they were hit head on

[andrea81]

Don't appoligise Leg, most of the time I laugh thinking about my gramps, he was a character!

This is exactly why I hate arguing with loved ones and NEVER go to bed on anargument! You never know when it's the last time you'll even see someone!

[MrLee-Gend]

A sad thing but then fortunate as well that you said what you wanted to them.


So many people dont get the chjance , some do and dont take it .Only to regret it later in life.

[MrLee-Gend]

My father died suddenly.I was fortunate like 4get tho in that instance .But know others who havent been so fortunate.

[andrea81]

You're right ther Leg, a friend of mine had terrible arguments with her mother because of her (the mothers) alcaholism!

Her mother died before they even made up! Can't imagine how she feels about it!

[4getmenot]

I saw another mate one day and as he came walking down pavement, there was a ladder over it, I chuckled to myself as I walked straight under and he waited for all traffic to go past so he could go around the ladder. He killed himself that night.

[MrLee-Gend]

Sometimes you never know 4get.Thje least little thing can push some folk over the edge.Others are thick skinned and sail through life without a worry.

[4getmenot]

yer unfortunately I know that all too well by now