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[aka pixi]

A friend of mine who I have known for donkeys years has just lost her daughter to cancer. She was only 19 years old and had a couple of kids. Over the years we have lost touch due to her moving a couple of times to different towns and both of us changing our phone numbers. I have a card which I am going to give to a family member to pass on but I honestly dont know what to write. The usual 'sorry to hear the sad news and we are thinking of you etc' just doesnt seem enough, yet on the other hand I know she would hate too much sentimental stuff. It isnt helping that i am getting pretty upset when Im trying to think what to write. Can anyone please help?

[4getmenot]

just put thinking of you and here if you need me, and your number.

[yogasun]

It's really difficult isn't it? I've had the same dilemma in the past. Completely agree with 4get, just a few lines as 4get suggested is enough to express volumes. That's what I ended up doing.

[aka pixi]

thanks 4get, thats about what I keep thinking of putting then I keep putting the pen down.

God i am so crap at this kind of thing.

[aka pixi]

thanks yogasun, it really is difficult. I think I will write what I thought of in the first place and be here if she needs me.

[4getmenot]

I;m sure no matter what you put she will be pleased to hear from you. Its very sad and s for someone so young to go is even sadder

[ethandron]

the fact that you have bothered at all to send a card will be of some comfort to her. having been through bereavement of very close family members 3 times now, i know it sometimes is the people you least expect to hear from that can give the most comfort , and in many ways it really doesn't matter what you write.

[haysi06]

I am so sorry to hear that pixi (((hugs))), some people don't read the card at the time but go back to them a few days later. Just give your number and say that you are there for her if she wants to get in touch to talk.

Hxx

[aka pixi]

thanks everyone.