Female Friend

[bms]

I had/ve a female friend two years ago which I had feelings for her. I told her how I felt about her and she refused my offer (love), saying we should be only friends. I tried my best but she couldn't say yes.

Thereafter I deleted her mobile number from my phone so that I couldn't keep seeing her name or anything that would remind me of her. That was fine all along until last when she phoned, asking how was I doing all those sorts of questions.
Now we are back to square 1 (friendship) of which I don't like cause it hurts me and she knows that. She keeps calling acting as if she doesn't know that I love/d her. How can I sort this out? All opinions and ideas are welcome.

[888sally888]

Be careful - sounds like you could get hurt and strung along again.

Either she is very thick skinned or maybe there is a chance that she regrest turning you down last time.

How is she acting around you?

[unhappychick]

I would be honest with her and tell her exactly how you are feeling

[beso]

You still feel the same about her two years on? Have you not had any other relationships in that time that would help you get over her?

People can mature a lot in two years and she may have different ideas of what she wants in a relationship now. Maybe you are still not what she is looking for but she wants to get to know you again because she can't remember why she turned you down last time.

Maybe you came on too strong for her. Relationships are a lot about timing. They happen when two people are ready for what each other has to offer at the same time.

You are not going to get anywhere by being resentful of being turned down last time. If you still want to be with her you are going to have to be her friend. Let it be a new start. Don't try to go too fast.

If it is going to happen this time it will without being pushed and it won't take too long. But whatever you do don't put all your hopes into it.

[terambulan]

We discussed love at 1st sight today.......I was surprised how many men 'clapped' eyes on an unknown woman and determined to pursue her regardless of her re-buffs (which made them even more keen). Elders (we are) have been paired for 30y & more!

Am pleased to see todays men seem to repeat this.......in their amorous pursuits.

Be cool with ur lady, as she has been with u and let her do a bit of the chasing...............good luck..........I like happy endings, so keep us informed.

[IceyMaiden]

On the other hand, maybe this woman DOES just want a platonic relationship. There's nothing wrong with that, except that in this case, your feelings've been unrequited in the past. I say nothing ventured, nothing gained, but if she still just wants to be friends - why not settle for that?

[bms]

I thank you all for your opinions, they are really helpful.
In terms of timing, that might the reason. Or may be she had a relationship that hurt her and thought of coming back to me, I don't know.
I will take things slowly. This time I'm not goanna approach the topic, if she needs me, she will try by all means to tell/show me.
I'll keep you posted. Thank You