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I am still so confused about my ex part of me hates of him and part still has some sort of feelings. He is badmouthing me to everyone and this makes me so sad. He is in a new relationship less than 5 weeks after we split and is due in court for assulting me with likelehood of a custodial sentence. I am on antideppresants and sleeping tablets am going out with friends but he still occupys most of my thoughts. I have seen my doctor about having counselling and he is sorting this but there is a waiting list, he feels I am suffering pst traumatic stress but I need to get him out of my head fast or wil contact him.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Counselling is not my forte, but I would have thought you should steer well clear of someone who assaults anyone, let alone if he has assaulted you. If you accept this and/or continue seeing him (except in court) then you deserve all the misery you reap as a result - this is meant as blunt, helpful advice, not as an insult.
It takes time to get over any relationship you can't just turn off your feelings towards your ex overnight.
You need to focus on the good things you have in your life, try and keep active, arrange nights out with your friends take up a hobby anything to keep your mind active and pull your thoughts away form your ex.
If he has been violent towards you in the past, then you are well shot of him, any time you feel like contacting him, think about how you felt when he was laying into you, that should be enough to change your mind.
Good luck.
You need to focus on the good things you have in your life, try and keep active, arrange nights out with your friends take up a hobby anything to keep your mind active and pull your thoughts away form your ex.
If he has been violent towards you in the past, then you are well shot of him, any time you feel like contacting him, think about how you felt when he was laying into you, that should be enough to change your mind.
Good luck.