Elderly mother's care.

[AniaSM]

My mother is in the EMI unit of a care home. She has very mild dementia (Shes imagined 2 things that weren't true in the last year) and a bad short term memory. I would like to get her moved to a residential unit. Will I be able to? She can dress herself and do the crossword. Its just that her memory is bad. She is frail but can walk a bit.

[Velvetee]

Sorry, but what is an EMI unit?

[terambulan]

If ur her next of kin you can move her anywhere. Ask your GP what the options are?

[AniaSM]

Eldery Mentally Ill.

Some care units will not take elderly people with dementia. I think she has dementia but a very mild case. The trouble is shes in a unit with elderly people with extreme dementia and I want her moved to somewher where there are people she can talk and become friends with.

[Velvetee]

Well you should probably contact your local department for welfare for older people, which is a social services department. They can do an assessment of your mother and between you decide on the type of care she needs. If your mother's demetia is mild, then being in the type of unit she's in can only serve to make her worse, as she probably is getting no mental stimulation.

My elderly mother is quite frail, has Diabetes, heart problems and can has poor short term memory, but hasn't been diagnosed with Dementia. She lives alone, but has a care package, where she is visited 3 times per day by carers, who wash and dress her, make her breakfast and lunch and then come back in the evening to settle her. I'm not sure that this kind of care would suit your mother, but there are many options available.

At the moment I'm trying to arrange for her to attend a daycare centre, although she has regular visiters, she's getting little stimulation, as she can't go out alone anymore.

[saxy_jag]

Contact your mother's local social services department and explain what you want. They will arrange for a social worker to visit you both and make a care assessment. If they feel she needs to live and be cared for elsewhere, they will help you to find the right home for her. It's a minefield for the uninitiated. These people are experts and take a lot of the burden off you. They should also be able to advise you on any possible financial benefits you or your mother may be entitled to.

[theonlyone]

I'm a carer for a man who has mild dementia
and he will going in to a home that's EMI
but has different levels of care ..he will go
in on the lowest and when and if he gets
worse will get extra care ...it's very sad...
you were not given the best advice and it's
very traumatic for the person concerned to
be uprooted from thier home and then moved
again ..try the csci site ...it will tell what the options are for your area and the ratings ...
when you look at a home use your eyes ..as in
activities and your nose for cleanliness ....
good luck ....

[naflharrison]

hi im a senior in charge in a private care home and from what you are saying your mother really sounds like she should be in a secure residential unit. there are good care homes and there are not so good. ours is a 12 bed unit that is just like a home from home, our residents have mild to moderate dementia and are very happy and content at being able to still feel independance with minor assistance and knowing there is always someone there to help should they request it. i would speak to your mother gp and really do your homework searching for a good small residential home. they are out there and although it may cost a little more in some cases its a much better way for the elderly to live. i can safely hand on heart say i would NEVER work in a large chain ran care home ever again as the quality of care is just not enough. search and you will find the right home where your mother can be independant and happy.

[LoftyLottie]

I would contact Social Services and ask for their assistance in chosing a new home. They helped me out with my mother who sounds very similar to yours. She is now in a small private residential home for the elderly and I would say that the majority of the residents have poor short term memory and some degree of dementia. It has 26 residents and is home from home, and she is far happier and very well looked after.

I totally agree with the posting from naflharrison above.

She should definitely not be in an EMI unit.