Could you forgive your parents?

[mrs.chappie]

I've been reading about the chap who faked his death in a canoeing accident, to claim the insurance money (old news, I know).

His two sons believed he was dead, and their mum kept up the pretence for 5 years.

If your parents did that to you, would you ever forgive them?

[mrs.chappie]

I agree with you, nono, I'd want to kill 'em!

[Buenchico]

I could easily forgive them for faking the death. I could never forgive then for getting caught. ;-)

[mrs.chappie]

Don't think they would have ever been caught had it not been for the internet!

[Ice.Maiden]

I don't know. I'd feel hurt and betrayed that I'd lost five years with that parent, for nothing, but also probably assume that they had mental disorders to act so out of character.

[Buenchico]

As I've written several times before, I just don't understand the concept of 'grief'. I've never grieved for anyone (including my parents) and I know I that I never will.

I regard death as 'nothingness' and I can't see how anyone can ever be bothered about 'nothing'. Grieving just doesn't make sense to me.

Yes, I know I'm 'odd' but that's the truth.

Chris

[mrs.chappie]

Hey Chris, I'm struggling to make sense of that!

Don't you miss your parents like hell? Isn't that grieving for them?

[Buenchico]

BTW: Am I the only one who's cynical enough to believe that the canoeist's children probably knew all along about the plot, but are just playing the injured innocents in order to avoid possible prosecution?

[Ice.Maiden]

I'd never do it to my children either nk, but who knows what goes on in te minds of individuals?

Hi Chris. Well, strange as it sounds, not grieving for dead parents can be quite normal! however, you wouldn't be grieving for nothingness hun - you'd be grieving for the loss of the person who loved you and brought you up.

[mrs.chappie]

Chris, I thought exactly the same myself, until I read their take on it all. That convinced me that they didn't know.

[Buenchico]

Mrs C:
I don't miss my parents at all. I don't, for example, understand funerals. I can't see why when someone has a death in the family, they don't simply take the body down to the local refuse tip and get on with their life. It really doesn't make sense to me why people should dwell on the past. Only the present and the future should matter.

[Velvetee]

Yes, providing the split the cash equally with me.

[Buenchico]

Incidentally, to show that I'm consistent in my beliefs, I've just copied and pasted this from my will:
"I desire that my body be cremated without ceremony and that my ashes be disposed of, also without ceremony, in any convenient refuse receptacle."

[mrs.chappie]

Now I'm wondering if you are winding me up, Chris.

You'd take your mum and dad to the local tip with the rubbish? I agree that funerals are a hell of an expense, and the coffin gets burnt or buried, and it's a waste, but surely you wouldn't take them to the tip?

[Velvetee]

How old are you Buenchico and what's your gender?