wedding plans

[bubbles4920]

can getting married in a years time really be so stressful? im looking for experiences, did you take it in your stride when planning or are you bound to get stressed? do you have to be a calm kind of person not to get stressed or are arguments bound to happen? surely perfection is what you are aiming for but can one always get it? im so mixed up about wanting to get married with family and friends invited or just go away and do it on our own and then have a party. i just dont want to get ill for the next year. ive always said too that i want to look thinner for the day itself but think this will put even more added pressure on me. advice please.

[Ice.Maiden]

Hi bubbles. Wedding plans can be both stressful and exciting, so it's no wonder we feel more anxious as the big day approaches.
I can't give you any advice, because we all think differently on this, but if anything, I'd tell you to sit down with your fiance and decide what the TWO of you want - no one else. Once you know the type of wedding you want, plan everything well in advance, one step at a time. Don't worry about losing weight unless it's really bothering you. I'm sure you'll look beautiful, and your husband'll love you whatever. x

[funnygirl]

Good advice here from Icey.

I can always remember my M in Law always scuppering my plans, from the colour of the bridesmaid dresses, hairstyles and food!!

I had to be firm and put her in her place. Today I still laugh when I see her face in my wedding pictures, a picture of misery!! Stil she did not spoil my day!!

Be firm!

[LoftyLottie]

Had the lowest key wedding ever. Married on a Monday in a registry office with only close friends and family invited and then back home to a really nice small reception. It was the best thing we ever did. I thoroughly enjoyed it, no stress whatsoever, no arguments and very cheap!!

This is what we wanted, it would not be everyone's choice. So what I am saying is that I agree with Ice.Maiden - do what you want - it is your day.

[Uttingbuzz]

I got married in may this year and planned it within a year. I knew i wanted my family & friends present so going away wasnt an option i also have a big family so knew i would have to be smart for it not to cost a fortune. I kept with what we wanted only made decision on what we really wanted no one else. i had a good motto when my sisters were whinging at me during the organising as they thought i was being to laid back in the beginning (i wasnt i just didnt tell them eveything i was and had done) i said to them to leave me alone if i need you i will ask but if it gets to the day and you dont have a good time you can moan at me then, meanwhile shut up! Anyway, it can be stressful i gave my H2B a supliment out of my wedding magazines each month which gave him some idea of what to expect from me as i got stressed and ideas on how he could say the right thing and calm me, it ended up being a laugh each time i got worked up, because he was following his booklet and diffused my most fraught moments. My h2b also bought me a little log book (A5) size which i carried with me at all times, in here went quotes and notes of absolutely everything, i would often get ideas pop into my head at the most inconvenient times so i would just scrible it into my book as alot of my stress came from me worrying that i would forget something, this book became my bible and is good to keep to look back on in years to come too!
I would recommend writting a list of everything you think you need to do, this might turn out being really long but trust me it wont take long before you can cross them off and get a sense of satisfaction. I wrote lists over and over and without them i would have certainly forgotten something vital! Decide with your H2B what you both want and go from there, prioritise venue booking as without these no other plans can be made. We were married in a hotel and had the whole day there, if you want any more detail let me know, i could talk about weddings all day!!!!

[Uttingbuzz]

Also, i always thought i would slim down for my big day but i didnt in the end, why should i? i am happy and he loves me as i am otherwise we wouldnt be together and he wouldnt have proposed. If you diet do it for yourself cus your not happy, if you are happy dont bother, i found a lovely dress and i am a size 24! I loved my day and didnt feel concious of my weight for one second! I was still a princess for a day!!! I look at my pics and love them i dont regret not dieting beforehand.

[funnygirl]

In the week before I got married, I was so nervous and had diarrhea and my dress hung on me!!!

[Oleanda]

Wish I had that problem, I am getting married this Saturday and seem to be geting fatter by the day!

[LoftyLottie]

LOL Oleanda. I am sure you will look just beautiful. Wishing you every happiness.