I've got a date tonight

[karmgirl]

My landlady has set me up with a friend of her friends. He's already been on a date with my 31 year old housemate but they are just friends and don't want more.

I texted this chap and asked for a photo but his phone wasn't receiving or sending pics so we just chatted for a bit and then he said do you want to meet up and I thought why not, but now I'm slightly regretting it.

I just feel negative about it already and don't want him to sense that. He is 30 or 31 and I am 21 on 30th August so 10 year age gap (I've had a bigger age gap than that) but I think I need someone who is about 5 years older than me. Having said that age is not all that matters if he's a nice guy adn he's a really loovely chap apparently but very shy hence why no gf/not married at the moment. Plus he is 6ft4 and I am only 5ft2 - he might be too tall do you think?

Plus as some of you know I have self-diagnosed myself with Social Anxiety so this is making me really nervous and I haven't a clue what I'm going to say to him.

[4GS]

Relax and let him start the conversation and then just go with the flow.

Hope you have a great time

[4getmenot]

You look waaaaaaaay too much into things, relax, be karm girl :-) And tell us all the goss tomorrow lol

[matrod]

If you do hit it off and you geta little frisky, just to remember to tell him "stick it on, before you stick it in"

safe sex is a must have a great night and make sure he pays for everything.

[karmgirl]

lol raggy - I hope he's not too polished - I like a man to look a man. A brown suit and trainers eurgh lol

He's gonna be really towering above me and I haven't got any heels to wear lol and I'm really scared already

[fingernail]

matrod/ 4GS worry about your small hands.


i like you 4GS please dont call me a paedo again

[cazzz1975]

there are other benefits to having a tall boyfriend ;D

[Eve]

His age and height are superficial, it's what he is like as a person that counts.

He's shy, you're anxious so you're both starting off on the same kind of footing and have something in common for a start :)

Meet him on the basis of a potential friends and see anything else as a bonus, there's no rush.

[karmgirl]

I was thinking of taking it in turns - he buys me a drink - I buy the next drinks?

Or should I let him pay for it all?

Also I don't even know what we're doing or where we are going - I suggested going for a drink (but then we have to talk to each other lots and there will be akward silences) and he said we'll decide tonight. Maybe should go cinema (won't have to talk to him then lol) just kidding but might see what films are on

[4getmenot]

matrod thats a bit forward, I think Karmgirl is after a relationship, never get it that way, play hard to get karmgirl :-)

[4getmenot]

bowling karmgirl that way no awkward silences

[cazzz1975]

yes have to agree with jenna, dont look down the line or over analyse things. you are not going to know if you click until you have the date. keep it friendly and as stressfree as possible

[fingernail]

lol cazzzz Im sure there are benefits to having a tall boyfriend you cheeky thing you :) What are the benefits of having a short, small handed power mad boyfriend though?

[Rosetta]

For gawds sake karmgirl, just go out and have a nice time. he sounds a nice bloke, take him for what he is rather than looking for your ideal all the time. He could be a very good friend. Personally I like tall blokes lol

[sallybowles]

yes, you should share the cost of drinks and things. you are meeting him as a friend. do not think too much about the 'date' thing yet. friends first...then see what follows.
:-)
have fun....you lucky girl.
:-)

[4getmenot]

get over it for god sake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. People have said things to me on here and I still talk I dont follow and bully under a green name, You are just making yourself look little and sad no-one else. Now stop ruining other peoples posts. Go away.

[cazzz1975]

Im sure I could make use of all of those skills :D

[4getmenot]

very sorry for that karmgirl, now where were we :-)

[karmgirl]

But then I will actually have to bowl 4get :S
Which is on a par with awkward silences or higher.

I'm just going to relax, I guess even if the date goes badly wrong and we don't talk much at all, I'll still be alive so it can't be that bad can it ;)

[4getmenot]

even better if you are crap at it it will be a laugh :-) And no it cant be, just go for it, you really deserve this