Broidesmaid dilema

[Thesilentone]

Last year I became really close to my partners best mates girlfriend. I thought I had found a true friend we shared so much in common and even all went on holiday together...this was the changing point, when we were on holiday she began to make comments about my appearance and my figure, which at first were complimentary and then quite frankly became nasty and spiteful for example.. you cant come to my wedding that skinny and pretty you will have to get fat and spotty. One evening she flew at me after she had drunk ALOT ( I was sober) I was gutted she slagged me off openly to her partner, and I decided to confront her and sort it out, she denied slating me openly and the proceeded to harm herself in front of me. I calmed her and put her to bed and woke in the morning thinkin I needed to help her. She ignored me for 24 hours before decideing to be "normal " the rest of the holiday! I am incredibly sensitive and in my line of work have delat with self harm etc, but had never experienced something like this. Upon returning home we went to a party, to which she appologised and thanked me for being a good friend and standing by her after all she had doen, then promptly asked me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding.. infornt of everyone!!! I agreed but feelin in two minds and dont know what to do. I am not as close to her as I was prior to our holiday and have infact tried to distance myself. But what should I do about the bridesmaid situation. as recently she told me I was going to be her size zero skinny cow bridesmaid. Suggestions greatfully taken on board. x

[puddicat]

U from the black country lol!!!

[Thesilentone]

The black country.. I don't understand what this comment means!

[daniela31]

I agree with zacsmaster....sounds like she is jealous of you. She may even show you up at her wedding. It would be embarrasing for you.
Arrange to have other plans on that day so it doesn't seem as if you are snubbing her.

[puddicat]

It was the way you spelt bridesmaid, it sounded like a black country accent lol

[Thesilentone]

Oh sorry typing without proof reading! Silly mistake!!
I am quite concerned that she will humiliate me.
Thank you for all your help, its good to hear what others think. (Especially when it reflects my own thoughts!!)

[daniela31]

Well if you are thinking along these lines also, then you have doubts about wanting to be a bridesmaid. Why not just say you have already been a bridesmaid twice before and that three times is unlucky.
Ask her if there are anyone else in her friends or family who would like to take your place.

[Thesilentone]

Thank you. I think I will arrange to meet her a discuss it face to face. Thank you all for your help. x