Dating a colleague

[I.R.]

Is it terribly wrong to date a colleague? I've always had this "no dating around the workplace" policy, but I'm now wondering if I haven't gotten it wrong somehow. The problem is, I'm beginning to think about this guy in my office a bit more than I ought to, and he obviously likes me a lot (told me so himself). Perhaps I should stop before it goes too far?

[ICEMANSAV]

It only really becomes an issue if you split up, then it is hard work seeing them at work, office parties etc. however if we never took the risk we would never get the reward. why don't you go for a few friendly drinks with him and see how your feelings develop, sometimes people can be different to how they appear in a work environment. Then if you begin to like him more and he likes you more you have a much stronger basis for starting a more intimate relationship.

[becks]

Depends on you definition of "wrong" i don't think there's anything wrong with seeing someone at work, just that makes things tricky - hard to maintain professionalism at work, if you have a persona row, not letting that carry into the workplace, if you break up how will that affect your working relationship - or if you break up and he starts seeing someone else at work - how that would affect you etc. IT's not wrong per se, to me, but can cause complications. YOu can stop it but IMO this makes things worse becuase you'll want him even more and maybe you should be together. As the saying goes you shouldn't dip your pen in the compnay ink, which generally is true but easier said than done.

[I.R.]

I'm awfully confused right now. I really wish he was working with another company, then I wouldn't have any doubts. Right now I'm just trying to decide if the whole thing is worth the stress I'd face if it doesn't work out. Or perhaps I'm just being overly pessimistic in thinking it wouldn't work!

[scissorman]

"Don't screw the crew" as I was once delightfully informed.

[becks]

Pessimistic or realistic? Yes it might work, but it also might not, are you both going to be in those jobs forever? If so consider it carefully, and as for wishing he worked somewhere else - maybe he's wishing you worked somewhere else - is this totally unrealistic? Would you really give up a job on the possibility of being with someone that it might or might not work out with.

[I.R.]

Now, becks, when you put it that way, I guess my job and career are more important to me than what might turn out to be just a flash-in-the-pan. So, I'm back to my "no office romance" policy! I'll get over it, I'm sure. Thanks a lot.

[H.Mann]

i.r i know exactly what you`r going through i`ve been there.i know the pain and hurt you will go through,i know firsthand how messy it gets and how many people it affects.at the moment your walking a very fine line,cross it and there`s no turning back.so the decision to carry on one you should make with great care, look very carefuly before you leap. i know how it ends!!!! noe more thing i`m sure he`s neaver flashed in a pan!!!!

[H.Mann]

ops sorry about the few mistakes i was in a rush. i forgot to say find out more about this guy.talk to him i`m sure he`ll tell you all you want to know.us men are not all that bad you know... anyway i.r hope it turns out o.k for you.it could be your stairway to heaven or your road to hell. may you live long and prosper. GOOD LUCK..