am I wrong?

[sara3]

so... Peter, the arse I sit opposite at work... we've had many fallings out which, honestly, have been 90% his fault. absolutely every time I've been the one to smooth things over, mainly for the sake of the team as it makes for a bad atmosphere.

he didn't like one of my wisecracks way back in March, took me aside and bawled me out. he said he just didn't like me, amongst other things. I was shocked and very upset but he smiled and said, "I'm glad I said that!"

we've not spoken since. he's since tried to move desks but there was just nothing else available.

so, 7 months on we say good morning (well, he kind of grunts) and will talk about work issues when absolutely necessary, and that's about it.

today I had to see my boss for a scheduled review, and we discussed this situation. he asked me if I would talk to Peter with a view to putting it all behind us and starting afresh.

honestly, I'm sick of the sight of him. he often upsets people and I feel he thinks he is winning something here, and if I am the one to try to sort it out again.. more points to him. I don't want to be friendly with him.

so, I said no to the boss. he asked me to have a think about it, and I agreed.. but I really don't want to. I know the boss has a lot of respect for me and I hate to let him down, but I really don't feel I can do this.

so... am I wrong?

sorry for waffling, how unlike me!

[sir.knobby]

Lets just face it you are in love with the guy and you know it

[logic]

yes, youre a woman :-)

[~max~]

Your boss probably went to you because he considers you to the "bigger" person, more likely to behave like an adult when dealing with difficult situations. He must know that it's putting a strain on the whole team, and only asked you because he knows Peter is a tw4t!
I know it must be difficult to swallow your resentment again, but it can't go on forever and you have to try again, as hard as it is! Go for it, sit him down, and explain the situation, and say that whatever your feelings towards each other are, it is a work situation, and you have to both behave like adults, and put your differences aside for the good of all.

If that fails, put laxatives in his tea.

[joggerjayne]

omg Sassy. Tell him to stuff it.

Do your job, and go home.

Or move to Brighton, and come and work with me. It's great here, except for the constant, annoying interruptions to play on ChatterBank.

[sir.knobby]

Dont blame you nooo nooo

[legend.isgod]

Sometimes a quiet life is better.
Sometimes you gotta stand your ground.
And sometimes you gotta get shafted for the sake of the team.


All said and done do whatever you feel strongest about.


And dont regret it if you later decide you were wrong.

Its your choice

[logic]

get a room you two

[sara3]

NK, read it.. I need your help!

Max, I read your response and thought you were right until....

... I read Jayne's!

[sara3]

thank you Leg, words of wisdom!

btw, about 3 years ago Peter told me he had "feelings" for me. I wasn't interested but was very subtle in telling him, so it's not like I ripped out his heart and stomped on it.

but I so could now!

[~max~]

That's ok, I am only right 23.5 hours a day. For the remaining half hour, I'll just be undecided.

[sir.knobby]

Ah but did you digest mine you may have read it but you have not taken it on board have you and that adds fuel to the fire donnitt

[joggerjayne]

Yaay.

But Max is a sexy French babe, so she might be right.

(being a foxy Frenchy is an important factor in being right!)

[logic]

tosh

[sara3]

sir.k.. he is horrible, really really horrible!

[~max~]

That is also true!

*max sits back theatrically on her vintage leather couch, giving off a hint of Chanel N5*

[legend.isgod]

sara i know wha im talkin about.unlike you women im rarely if ever wrong.

goodnight im off to my kip

ill let you ladies dissect this alone



ciao ciao

[Jugglering]

Sara... I reckon your boss asked YOU to do the *mending fences* because you are a woman and he thought you were more likely to want to do this.... I'd say, sod this Peter and the boss... why on earth should you have to be the one who smooths the air or mends the fences ? Sounds to me like this Peter is the one with the problem, not you ! Dig your heels in, girl. If you get any real problems regarding this, then either contact your union, your HR (Personnel) Department or the Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) or maybe just tell your boss that's what you are about to do and see him start to shiver .....

[sara3]

night night, Leg x

[joggerjayne]

Max is secretly Catherine Deneuve.