What a mess

[nicolajane]

My sixteen year old sons x girlfriend has recently informed us that her seven month old daughter is my sons baby, after the initial shock we had a DNA test proving her to be so. the problem is another lad has being going out with her since early pregnancy and has raised the child as his since her birth. His name is on her birth certificate as she informed him the baby was his.
He has had doubts and has now left her.
So my question is who has parental responsibility my son or the other lad. also the babys mother is refusing to have the birth certificate changed to her own or our surname.how do we stand legally on that matter.

thank u x

[Eve]

I think the main thing in all this is the baby's welfare and making sure they are being well loved and cared for and trying to come to an amicable arrangement as possible for the child to be looked after and financially supported before sorting details such as the birth certificate.

If not married to the mother then your son does not have automatic parental responsibility but can obtain it.

This should give you some more information.

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/ParentsRig hts/DG_4002954

[pinktwink]

given you have dna evidence to prove paternity your son needs to apply to the courts to be appointed guardian of the child and also will need to apply to have his name inserted on the birthcert.
as stated above the priority is the childs welfare. Does your son plan to play a parental role young and all as he is.

[toptom]

More important from what you have posted about the baby, what are your Sons feelings, does he want interest in the baby?

[legendis.god]

And your son will be liable to the csa for money .Only until the baby is out of full time schooling or 16.

[terambulan]

U discovered ur a grandma....only u can win mother & baby round to acknowledging paternity. Befriend the babe & mum. Make sure their needs are fulfilled by you; baby-sit/birthdays/xmas pressys, everything you can to 'worm' into their lives.

You've been thru child-rearing so u know what needs doing?

[toptom]

By the way, if another lad has been going out with her since early pregnancy It seem she is not to worried about who she sleeps with.

This is getting so common in the UK and no doubt she will be on free benefits, house etc for the rest of her life like the rest of unmarried Mothers..

Why work, just shag around.

[toptom]

terambulan,

You are a softie :- )

[toptom]

Is your Son still at school nicol?

[gelda]

Get in touch with Jeremy Kyle,

[RevFunk]

I blame the parents

[arline]

it is ur son's child he need to take financial and emotional responsibility for the child next time tell him wear a condom or better teach him safe sex