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At what age were you most comfortable
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with yourself, expressing your opinions, standing up for yourself, being confident etc?
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I have always had a lot of confidence, I am very articulate, and I think very quickly.
TThat said, that facility was a bit like having a garden hose with too much pressure - i could quirt my verbosity this way and that, but had very little control over it.
I have found with each year that passes, my comfort at who and what i am grows, and with it an inbuilt self-confidence which I know radiates from me, and allows me to control almost all social interaction.
With age comes the wisdom to know that being able to control a conversation does not mean it is always polite, appropriate, or even desireable so to do, and that is a vitally important difference in me at fifty-three, compared with me at seventeen.
TThat said, that facility was a bit like having a garden hose with too much pressure - i could quirt my verbosity this way and that, but had very little control over it.
I have found with each year that passes, my comfort at who and what i am grows, and with it an inbuilt self-confidence which I know radiates from me, and allows me to control almost all social interaction.
With age comes the wisdom to know that being able to control a conversation does not mean it is always polite, appropriate, or even desireable so to do, and that is a vitally important difference in me at fifty-three, compared with me at seventeen.
For me it's never been an age thing, but a situation thing.
Feeling I've got people round who I know are aware of the points being discussed helps, even if they disagree with me, because I don't then feel like I have to go into superfluous background stuff and distract myself.
With experience I get to look back on stuff I've done and use it to back me up when I'm trying to bring home a point, so I suppose that means I'll be ancient before I actually get quite good at debating.
I always found that I leaned, as a child, towards adults who wouldn�t dismiss my points of view on sight as it were. Sounds obvious I suppose. Luckily, I was surrounded by them and I think that�s why I�m not wary of putting my view across. I�m not scared that I�ll be immediately rejected if I have a differing view. I suppose if I�d been surrounded by different people, I�d never open my mouth now (not even my virtual one).
Feeling I've got people round who I know are aware of the points being discussed helps, even if they disagree with me, because I don't then feel like I have to go into superfluous background stuff and distract myself.
With experience I get to look back on stuff I've done and use it to back me up when I'm trying to bring home a point, so I suppose that means I'll be ancient before I actually get quite good at debating.
I always found that I leaned, as a child, towards adults who wouldn�t dismiss my points of view on sight as it were. Sounds obvious I suppose. Luckily, I was surrounded by them and I think that�s why I�m not wary of putting my view across. I�m not scared that I�ll be immediately rejected if I have a differing view. I suppose if I�d been surrounded by different people, I�d never open my mouth now (not even my virtual one).
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I had far more to say myself 20y ago and was confident I was right. I now see I wasn't. I also learned that talking to much and controlling a conversation meant I never heard nor learned anothers opinion or knew much of them.
I now prefer to 'zip it' and listen to others.....'cause there's always gonna be a laugh between friends, that's the fruit of life.
I now prefer to 'zip it' and listen to others.....'cause there's always gonna be a laugh between friends, that's the fruit of life.