Egg Donation

[Myst]

For those of you that have had children and dont want any more or those of you who dont want children full stop. My question is have any of you considered egg donation to help women who are desparate for children to have one. If you havent thought of it why? Would you donate your eggs? if not why?

[CUPID]

I would love to donate my eggs and give another couple or couples the joy of parenthood.
I have 2 wonderful boys, and I know how much I love them, and it would be be no sacrifice at all, to donate my eggs, but I am now classed as too old, btw i'm 53.

>:-)

[weeal]

I wanted to do this years ago, but at the time you had to have treatment daily for some time then get on the overnight train to London (Im in Scotland) deposit the eggs then get the next train back, it was too much for me whilst working full time etc, I never did it, now Im possibly too old

Its a fab idea tho

[missspeedy23]

I have considered it yes, and I think it's something I will seriously consider in the future once my family is complete.

I would even think about being a surrogate as I loved my pregnancy.

My cousin has had 2 traumatic pregnancies ending in a baby with genetic problems who both died so I was going to offer this to her. Thankfully she is now pregnant a 3rd time with a healthy child.

[Myst]

miss speedy. I am pleased to hear you are thinking about it. The waiting list for women awaiting egg doners is currently a minimum of 10 months and its heart breaking. I appreciate you are considering it when your family is complete which will be great. The limit for donating your eggs is age between 18 and 35. You do have to have tests to make sure about HIV, clamidia, hep b and c etc. As a women waiting for a doner I applaud your thoughts. I am distraught to find I couldnt have children but am on the list waiting for a doner. Because there are so few women who donate their eggs the list is huge. If anyone is thinking about IVF themselves then CARE at Nottingham offer an egg share scheme where by you get reduced costs IVF treatment for sharing your eggs.

But thank you on behalf of the women you may help in the future.

[annie0000]

I had difficulty conceiving with my first child, so I can appreciate a small part of what people who are really desperate feel. As a consequence, after I had my first, I got pregnant really quickly as I didn't want to wait and now happily have 2 boys of 8 and 7 - my 2nd was born when I was 35, so I would not have been eligible to donate. However, I am not sure, even understanding the pain that people go through, whether I could give up something that was part of me, knowing that I would never see any child of mine created. I know that must sound really selfish, but I am sure that that would hold a lot of people back - I think that if it was for my sister or a close relative where I could still have a relationship with the child, I could maybe have coped better.

I sincerely hope that someone less selfish than me comes along to make your dreams come true - best of luck x

[zxyvixy]

i was fine conceiving my first but it took a long time for the second child too arrive,and three more pregancy ended in miscarrige.

yes i would donate eggs,and give others a chance to experience mother/father hood.but im too old to donate.

[Myst]

Hi I understand your concern about this but you have to realise it wouldnt be your child. The child would be that of the recipiant and her partner without whom that particular child would not have existed.

The egg is just a collection of cells which the man would fertilise. It is the recipiant that actually feeds the egg with her blood etc and thereby gives the life to the child. Yes without the egg there would be no life but without the recipiant there would not have been a child. Because ultimately if the egg had not been donated then it would have just passed away as your menstrual cycle unless you were actually trying for a child yourself. If you are not trying for a child or wanting them then the egg is just the cells your body would have cast off. You helped by giving an ingredient to help create the possibility of life, but the recipiant is the person that gives life to the egg. You must appreciate that the resultant child would no longer be the egg you donated. Similar to if you give blood, or bone marrow, or a kidney etc. By so doing you have helped save a life but the life you helped save is not your life, no more than the blood you gave is any longer your blood.

I appreciate people may think I am biased but I was prepared to donate eggs to help someone else so have given this a lot of thought. Hence I found out I actually need help from someone else.

[annie0000]

Im sorry myst, but I have to disagree - I couldn't think of any child created from my egg as anything other than my child. I know that other people are able to seperate from that, but I know that I couldnt and I suspect that others may feel the same. People do it, they give up eggs, embreos and even full grown babies and children - and I applaud their ability to do that. It is not the same as donating blood (which I have done for many many years) and I do appreciate that without the fertilisation, the egg is just shedded, but once it is fertilised, it becomes a human being that is 50% the mother and 50% the father genetically. It may sound a bit extreme, but giving up my egg would feel the same to me as giving up one of my children now - maybe I am just a control freak- well no maybe about it really.

[annie0000]

Incidentally, I thought that you wanted a rounded amount of opinions, not just people who agreed with you, surely it is better to understand why everybody doesn't do it, although at the end of the day, that doesn't help your situation and as I said, I am absolutely sympathetic - I can remeber the feelings of devestation and frustration that we felt when trying to conceive and we have close friends and family who have gone through the pain of many unsuccesful ivf attempts. But that still wouldn't make me change my mind.

[Ice.Maiden]

Not all could bring themselves to donate their eggs. For those who do, in order to help other women, I think it's a fabulous gesture. I've had some frozen for if we want to add to our family later on, since I can carry children, but no longer have my ovaries. Best of luck to you.

[Myst]

annie I have no problem with differing view points but by offering a counter arguement I want to be sure that all aspects have been considered by people. Not just the view point that any child from an egg is still the doners child.

When I was approaching this as a potential doner I considered your arguement long and hard and yes the egg would have my genes but then so would my kidney, bone marrow etc. I would not be creating life but helping someone else to do that. That my egg was a single ingrediant in the process and that it was the husbands sperm and blood of the and body of the recipiant that would give the cells life - not me. Hence whilst the child would carry my genes the created child itself would not be mine. So I do understand your view point I have been there myself and considered it from all angles.

However I offered a counter arguement to your post. I wanted to ensure that the alternative arguement to the one you rightly placed is offered. You are entitled to your opinion and counter arguement. Please do not be offended. I would hope that this debate would help other women think about donating eggs (not for me specifically but for others on the long list) and if by offering a counter arguement someone comes forward and donates by perhaps considering it from an angle they had not previously thought of then that is great.

Please do not be offended at my offering alternative ways at looking at this topic.

[zzxxee]

i donated eggs 6 years ago it was one of the best things ive ever done lenghty process though and your asked loads of questions.....