what couldnt you forgive your partner?

[ddaisy992]

was having an interesting chat with girlfreinds about exs. We were talking about what you couldnt forgive i said violence towards me or my kids, thats oversteppin a line that you cant go back from, others said havin affairs cant be forgiven whereas i think that could,in certain circumctances.

[ddaisy992]

oh crap the spelling police will be on my tale! Circumstances*

[oldgrape]

i would not forgive violence, affairs, dodgy pics on pc or serious lies or being put down constantly

[ddaisy992]

its funny but not in a ha ha way, i was sayn the other night that i thought Gordon Ramsey is a sexgod then i read today hes had a mistres for 7 years! Put me off him i can tell you.

[lil123]

I lost everything I had because of my ex husband. I have put it all behind me now, but he still, after 2 years of splitting up, he tries to come back. All I do is remember where I was then and where I am now which is pretty good to say It's only 2 years I have built my life back up.
Best thing to do is just put it all behind you and move on.

[ddaisy992]

i agree that its best too move on lil, but some women do forgive violence or affairs (men as well probably). I couldnt if violence was involvd as I think theirs a shift in the relationship, i' also think you'd be living on eggshels wondering if/when it will happen again. Same probly for affairs when you think about it.

[Sgt.Rock]

Texting me every 5 minutes is unforgivable!!

[ddaisy992]

ha ha sgt. Rock i assume your a man? Some women need too know where the man is all the time.0)

[pink-kittens]

Violence and infidelity

[torn-in-two]

Most Has been done to me and I have forgiven him for most of it, So I guess im either stupid or forgiving and persistant.
Something tells me im stupid. x

[terambulan]

bluddy passing on before me and leaving me with all the clearing-up!

[Sgt.Rock]

ddaisy - Of course I'm a man. Been dumped for not replying, does my head in!!

[CAJ1]

Lying, cheating, violence, anything that hurt me or causes me pain because if they really loved you they would do nothing to hurt you and when they have the trust is gone and it won't work.

[ddaisy992]

i guess it depends on the individual circumstance but i dont thnk i would ever forgive violence. Thanks for the replys.

[Velvetee]

I couldn't forgive violence either. Also if I discovered my partner was a Paedo, that could never be forgiven.

[pastafreak]

I agree with velvetee...those are things that would cause me to change the locks. As for an affair......that is very dependent on what else was going on in the relationship at the time. If the guy is basically a serial womaniser...then he should be shown the door. If,on the other hand,it was a momentary lapse in what has been a happy marriage for BOTH....then lots of talking is called for.
When I found out my ex was having what seemed to be a long-term affair, I was very surprised-as he really was not the type. I also chose to keep my knowledge to myself...and left him a year later when the time was right. I was not that bothered by it because I had accepted that the marriage was over well before all this.

[ddaisy992]

oh i could NEVER forgive a pedophile that doesnt bear thinking about. I agree also with you pastafreak. In my opinion people who are happy in a relationshp dont go looking for affairs. it must be a shock but maybe it acts as a wake up call?suppose its up too the individuals wether they want too try again.

[~max~]

I couldn't forgive violence (and didn't). I couldn't forgive him trying to put me down or disrespect me in any way, be it by lying about something important (small lies are ok), cheating (unforgivable, unless just once and VERY apologetic), or generally being a condescending arse.

I wouldn't forgive violence towards children, ever. Although I'd like to think I'd have judged him pretty well by the time we're actually together.

[bms]

getting her in bed with another man