confused

[tito2002]

My girl broke up with me coz she loved me too much and wsas afraid if she carried on she would be so hurt when we eventually broke up. I love too much please help?

[cheyenne]

well she has broke up with you ,did it hurt her???

[Closer]

she's lying. move on.

[LeMarchand]

It's just an excuse. At least she tried to let you down gently.

[piggie]

sounds like an excuse i may have used in past. Better off without her, have some fun and find someone else.

[tito2002]

The reason is because she is Jewish and I'm not so we havent got future together so well have to break up one day so she did it now before it is too serious. I still want her. Help

[piggie]

well that explains a little but in this day and age does religion really matter if you love each other that much?

[tito2002]

it dont matter but she scared her parents to disown her. Should I give it a break then may be if she really loves me shell come back? or should I keep in touch

[piggie]

if you can, stay friends, although this is very hard to do when you still have feelings for each other. What happens when she finds someone her parents do approve of? how will you feel then? You can't just hang around in case she changes her mind. I know you must be relly hurting at the moment - been there (spent 2 weeks in my flat crying ) it seems like you'll never get over it but you do. Hopefully she will change her mind in a week or two but if not don't wait around, enjoy your life and make the most of it, lifes too short and there are too many people out there to meet. Not sure if this helps you. I hope itdoes a little,

[tito2002]

we actually broke up 3 months ago but then carried on as normal seeing each other jus like boyfriend n galfriend.But now she has decided this has to stop aswell. Do you think shez got her mind made up now? You think shell eva change her mind again?

[chocoholic1]

Hi, I have battled with religion for the last 7 years and finally married the man of my dreams who is not the same religion as me. I will tell my parents one day and I know they will disown me - but they'll eventually come round because they love me. It's your life - do what makes you happy.

[piggie]

hate to say this but I think you need to move on it'll be hard for a while but you will get over her. I think she's definitley made her mind up sorry! I would suggest you try to see as little of her as you can - make it your decision! throw yourself into something else you like doing, spend more time with your friends or find a new interest to keep you occupied for a few months, you never know you may find someone else who changes your whole world - I know I did and 6 years later a still cant believe the difference from how I felt then to how happy I am now. Hope this will make you feel a bit more positive about everything.

[Casey]

You only sound young. How old are you if you don't mind me asking?

[georgit79]

My housemate at uni was in a similar situation- she was Jewish and her boyfriend was kind of nothing. It's not always just a question of love being all you need- my mate loved her boyfriend as much as I think it's possible to love someone, but at the end of the day (sorry for the cliche), she was committed to her faith, and I'm not sure her boyfriend was prepared to convert to Judaism. I thought it was all madness, but since I'm not really religious myself, I can't understand.

[tito2002]

I'm 20 n she 19. She calls me every now and again though n she say she loves me and that if her parents were ever fine with it, then she would be on my door.I really want to get her back. Anyone got advise??

[Casey]

If she is 19 is it not up to her if she continues to see you or not? I thought that after 18 it would be a personal choice if you wish to continue to follow a religion.

[ZazenHermit]

The only thing you can do is let her go. That may not sound very satisfactory, but if you try holding onto anything that wants to slip away you'll just end up torturing yourself. Keep loving her. Never let yourself be consumed by hate or anger. Good luck.