If you truly loved someone, would you let age stand in the way?

[Bangie]

"Age is a question of mind over matter, if you don't mind, then it doesn't
matter"





Love is already hard enough to find in this world, if you were truly in
love with someone, would age really matter? I mean after age 18 of course.
For example: If someone was 25 and they were in love with someone who was
48, would that be such a big deal? And I mean in love, not looking for
money.


Just curious what your guy's opinions are on age. And whats the biggest gap
you've ever had with someone?

[dustinmyeye]

i think people can make too big a thing of age, id say it is the person that you fall in love with and age is just a number, saying that though id say if the age gap is rather big then it would possibley produce alot of difference of opinions and ideas,lifestyle choices etc but i do believe that age gaps arent particulary a problem.

i was with a man 16 years older than me and we rubbed along just fine and dandy , although he was kinda immature for his age and i was mature for mines so i guess that evened it out a tad.

[pastafreak]

It is more about how you get on,and whether you balance each other out that is important...love finds a way....as long as you LET it. Too often people don't let love in because they are too busy thinking about the 'what-ifs'.........regret is a terrible thing.
My ex was 5 years younger than me...which is nothing in the big scheme of things. A lot of my best friends have always been quite a bit younger than me so i don't really notice age in people. In fact-folks my own age are sometimes a bit stuffy...lol

[QueenOfAmber]

If you are truly in love with someone I think it would be best if they were within six years of your own age... I'm not saying this wouldn't work or anything but could you cope if you had kids and then all the other Mums knowing your kids Dad was like, a Grandad? If you are really in true love with this guy - just think it through a while, if you feel the same way give it a go. I hope it turns out okay for you. :)

[blackcat77]

It depends on what you want from the relationship. My OH is 22 yers older than me, we met when I was 35 and he was 57 and we have been together for 14 years. It helps that he is very young for his age both in outlook and looks. He got married in 1959, the year of my birth! He had 3 children who are now grown up and have children of their own. I never discussed having children with him but he did once say that he was glad I wasn't fussed about kids as he realy didn't want everyone to think that if we had any people would think that he was their grandfather. I never really thought about children, I'm not naturally maternal, but the relationship would not have worked if I had wanted children. There are lots of pro and cons to a big age difference. Think hard about what you want from your life together. And I wouldn't change my OH for anything! (except maybe Daniel Craig!)

[Ethel]

18 years between me an my first husband - a very happy marriage it was too.

[Le Chat]

I am 10 yrs older than my husband, we met at ages 28 and 38! I look younger (I am now 44) and he looks older -- no one would ever guess and noone ever asks!
He has always been 'old' and reckons that if I would have met him when he was 19, he would have been just as mature and sensible.
It really depends on the maturity of the younger one because I know that I do not view the world in the same way at 44 as I did at 24, which means that I have changed alot in that time, whereas my husband has not.

[Beanmistriss]

My blokes 14 years older than me and things are fab. Age in itself isnt an issue but wanting diffirent things can be and I think is more likely to happen if there is a big age gap. for example my blokes got two nearly grown up kids. I want kids. If he wasnt willing to have more that would be a problem.

[lil123]

My last 2 boyfriends have been alot younger than me. One 9 years younger the other 10 years younger.
It was not a problem.
I think as long as you want to be with the person and you love them then so what

[gelda]

My hubby was 18 years older than me and there was never a problem, we were together for 31 years and were very happy.

[stompe]

Only draw back so far ( theres 20 years difference between me and her in doors) When i said thats the "Beatles" she said who! IT put 20 more years on ME!!LOL

[Oneeyedvic]

I am 35 and my wife is 58. We have been together for 12 years, married for 5 years (so we started going out when I was 23 and she was 46)

My step children are now 30 and 27 and I have 3 step grand children - 5 1/2, 3 1/2 and 18 months.