Friendships for the future

[lovefoolb4u]

Hello,

I've more or less sorted myself out in terms of being myself - I try to be sociable as possible at university now and although I sometimes get stuck for conversation, I'm a lot happier and more confident, and am happy being on my own too.

The thing is, I know it's not a huge deal at this stage, but I haven't actually met anyone that I would really see myself being good friends with in the future. As far as I know, most people meet their 'friends for life' at uni, and I wouldn't say I've met anyone that I will always be friends with.

Is this normal at an early stage? It just worries me that so many other people seem to have good friends and are in relationships with people, when they've known them for the same amount of time as I have.

[minimonkey]

i left uni 11 years ago and whilst i was there i had loads of friends and a boyfriend - now i have 1 friend from uni that i still see....i may be an extreme as i know people with loads of friends from uni - but i have made friends for life from other things i have done since then - besides you never know how these things will turn out - its not til after uni that sometimes realise that your friends were only your friends because you were all in the same situationa nd that afterwards life changes and other friends suit you better. I am a firm believer in the fact that you have a few lifelong long friends but others you meet along the way and they can come and go as your life changes.....

[sophie_1003]

I'm at uni at the mo but living at home so finding it very difficult to make good friends with anyone in the class. I really get along with a lot of people but couldn't really see myself being friends with them after uni. This does bother me sometimes but I know I have a couple of good friends who I've been friends with since nursery and don't think I'll ever stop seeing them so I try not to dwell on it too much!

[carmalee]

I met my greatest friend in life when I was 28. we went through a war together ,family breakups and the fact that her husband came on to me and 40 years later we are still true friends - believe me friendships can't be sought they just happen. you sound such a nice person, I'm sure if you just get on and enjoy your life good things will happen

[coccinelle]

I met someone in my first job who really became a good friend as we loved the same things and went travelling about. I then met my future husband, she met hers and due to the miles we just fizzled out. I've since made new good friends. Friendships just happen, don't go forcing them or you'll scare the person away.

[benchmarrow]

i was at uni 13 yrs ago and am no longer in touch with anyon- so dont worry if you dont click. When i was at uni i got jobs locally and made more friends there- one of whom i am still in touch with. People at uni often just get on with each other as they are thrown together- you'll make friends etc when it is right for you- forced friendships are a nightmare. Just be yourself you sound like a nice, sorted person :)