Advice needed

[jamxtart]

My husband and I are struggling with our finances at the moment. Yesterday my husband was called in to see the manager where he works. The manager told him that a new role in the company had came up which is the same hours but �200.00 a month more.He offered the job to my husband and he jumped at it. The problem is this, when he came out of the office a friend of his was waiting outside he said that he had just been sacked from his role and demoted, it turns out that my husband has been given his friends job. Now he just dont know wether to take it or not. His friend was dismissed because he refused to put in any overtime.
I've told him to take it because we have three children and are really really struggling with money, where his mate lives at home with his parents and has no children. My question is what would you do if you were in my husbands situation?

[Jan1957]

Sorry but in these times I would say your husband has no choice but to take the job. He has his family to support and they must come first.

His friend would not have been demoted if he was doing his job properly, and obviously did not need the overtime whereas your husband does.

[daffy654]

I agree 100% with Jan1957.

[~Wingnut~]

I would take the job, if the other isn't fulfilling his contract by refusing overtime then that's his tough luck, now is not the time to mess your work around. You have to think of your family first :o)

[Jillius]

Don't feel bad ! If the other fella refused to do overtime then that is his problem ! Go for it.

[Jan1957]

If he is a good friend of your husband's perhaps he could have a word with him and explain that he has three children to support. If he is a real friend he will understand. Maybe not at first but if he thinks about it reallistically he may come round.

My husband was made redundant three weeks ago so I know how you feel. Good luck.

[obNOXious]

The two things are not even vaguely related actually when you think about it. Your husband's friend was sacked because he wouldn't do what they required of him. After that they were always going to need a replacement... and in this instant it's your husband. See it as a bit of well needed good luck. If your husband doesn't take the job then someone else will, it won't change anything for his friend, so just take the job and enjoy the extra money.

[ailie]

This is 2 seperate problems & your hubby can't sort out his friend's problem BUT he can support him & be a mate while the guy sorts it out with the employer.
Congratulations to hubby, he must have earned respect to get a good rise.

[gossipgirl]

times are hard with everyone at the moment and i think your husband should definately take the job, if his friend was a true friend he would understand especially if there are children involved, at the end of the day he cant of been doing his job properly to have lost it.

[Totterdown]

There is no point in your husband turning down the job because of his friend. If he did turn down the job his friend won't get his job back will he?

[jamxtart]

Thankyou for all your replies, they have helped alot. I have sat down with my husband this afternoon and i've shown him all your answers. We have had a good chat and hes decided that he is going to take the job. So a really big thankyou as I think that you may have stopped him feeling so guilty about it.