i dont necessarily think soulmate relates to the man in your life, i have many soul mates ie people whose soul my soul has been close to and they are many and varied, but i love them all.
My sister is my soul mate
My brother is my soul mate.
My parents aren't but i still love them.
My ex husband was a soul mate, but our time together was cut short because of the lessons our souls needed to learn................
It comes down to the definition of soul mate, couple love ( or possibly lust !!) does not mean "soul mate" to me but a deep understanding does...................... and i truly believe i once spent a train journey with a soul mate whose name i dont even know !!! and i will never meet again, but the connection on that journey changed my life.................
hope this makes sense !!!