Dream - Cheating on my Boyfriend

[jem_bob]

This has happened a couple of times in the last month... I have a dream in which I'm cheating on my boyfriend. It's not really based around the sexual side or anything, just 'being' with another person. Sometimes it's people from TV etc. I've read that this can indicate feelings of guilt in regards to work, home life etc. But I cannot recall anything I should feel guilty about. We have recently bought a flat together and we're 21, so now I'm worried these are supressed feelings of being trapped and that I'm wanting to experience being with other people. What do you think?

[redcrx]

its just a dream! thats all it is.
dont worry about it

[4getmenot]

its a dream thats all, I dream of octupuses coming through my bedroom wall and giant spiders doesnt mean its going to happen

[jem_bob]

I get that, but it's just that it's a recurring dream. And when I wake up, I feel grumpy with my boyfriend because he doesn't treat me like the men in my dreams. I'm afraid this means the relationship has gone stale after more than 3 years together. I wouldn't be bothered if it was a one off, but it's happened about 4 times in the last month.

[redcrx]

even recurring dreams dont have to mean anything.
Why are you taking any notice of it? do you think that your relationship is turning stale anyway?

[Sasha-2008]

You have no control over your dreams thats the scary thing. I dreamt the other night that I was having fantastic sex with an old partner and then I went home and slept with my boyfriend. I felt bad when I woke up but I know it's my boyfreind I want to be with not my ex.

nothing I can do about it.

[jem_bob]

Only because it's recurring, that I'm taking notice of it. The fact that my brain is persistently creating the same dreams, I thought it may be part of my subconscious coming through. I didn't realise even recurring dreams could mean nothing. I don't think it's gone stale, not particularly. No more so than it usually does after 3 years together. I do feel guilty when I wake up, but I also feel a great sense of loss. Like the relationships in my dreams are what I'd like the reality to be like. Just generally being treated really nicely all the time, romance that sort of guff. I know that doesn't exist in real life though.

[jem_bob]

Also I enjoy the excitement of a new relationship in my dreams. The getting to know each other, the dates, that sort of thing. My partner and I know everything about each other, and all we have to talk about really is work. Maybe I'm just looking for an outlet to live the single life again through my dreams.

[redcrx]

why not just use it to you advantage. Motivation to make your relationship feel new again, go out, enjoy each others company.

[jem_bob]

That's not a bad idea you know. I do love him and want it to work. I'll suggest we go for a meal or something. Treat it as a first date... could be quite fun!

[4getmenot]

maybe Subconsciously you are feeling this way and do want a break. If I'd have had a dream like that even reoccuring it wouldnt effect me as I am happy with my bloke. The way you keep having to ask and that you already think it has something to do with being trapped makes me wonder why you are questioning it in first place. Have a good hard think about your relationship. x

[Octavius]

It just sounds to me like one of Freuds theories, that dreams are the fulfilment of a wish. By that I don�t mean you might be subconsciously wishing to go out with other people, but that you might be wishing these �outings� were happening with your boyfriend and because it hasn�t been happening, you can�t see him in the dream. Dreams are a collection of memories, fears and desires - usually all rolled into one.

Subconsciously your mind is telling you that this is what you want, so some good advice above, arrange a special night out and stop worrying.