weight...again!

[xxlizziexx]

ive been really down resently about my weight. i lose half a stone in a week a while ago adn i want to do it again. i feel so fat and ugly. i know some of you will say it doesnt matter whats on the outside its matters on the inside i understand but please dont say that. i dont know what to do to lose weight drasteckly! i mean like i want to lose weight now! i did it b4 without ANY exerise and i felt great. has anyone got any tips on how i can lose weight????? im 14 years old a girl and weights 8.6 stone!! i weight more than a really good friend of mine and that in a way has made me feel like this but not all of it. just please im begging you someoen tell me how i can lose weight fast! thank u xx

[el duerino]

from the tone of your post I would say you are not far off having a mental problem regarding your weight. losing weight drastically will mean it will come back on just as fast. the only way to lose fat is to do it slowly, and through a change of lifestyle. however, I will say again, I doubt you will ever be happy if you concern yourself to such an extent with trying to look as other people tell you to. please develop a sense of self and some esteem not related to your physical appearance. I guarantee that this will make you about 20x more attractive than every other stick woman who steps on the scales every night. its up to you.

[lockman]

I agree with  el duerino there is no simple fix it cure to loose weight.

Have you spoken to your family or friends about how you are feeling ?  if so what do they say ?

I have two daughters the eldest  is  big  built,  the youngest slim built, you can imagine what sort of arguments and comments that has created. I can eat like a horse and never put on weight while my wife only has to look at food and piles on the pounds.

I know its easy to say but we all have our hang-ups, some easier to live with than others and as difficult as it may be you should seek the opinion and guidance from a doctor,  with help and guidance from qualified people I am confident that you will not only lose weight properly but also overcome your feelings and be a lot happier.

Good luck and best wishes

[tigga]

Lizzie, by the sound of things you already know what most are going to say, but just dont want to hear it.

Please understand that if people are concerned enough to sit and write replies to you- they must have a point eh !

As el duerino says, self esteem and confidence are the key. why not give it a try, forget about it for a week or so- really cheer up, be chattier, funnier, get out and about and make the effort to have a great laugh with everyone you know.

I too promise you will see the difference and probably wont look back !

[Yinzer]

Hey there Chica, guess you know all of the most important things that others said, and I couldn't agree more. BUt to actually answer your question I suggest running. My friends botfriend just went from 210 lbs to 183 in about a month and a half just from taking daily runs. Also this will boost your spirits because you're actually doing something for yourself (plus the endorphins give you a nice high). Combine this with sensible eating. You don't have to live without dessert but try eating smaller portions of everything (if portion size is a problem for you), and don't get too hungry as this tends to make us crave sweets. Drink lots of water, don't eat after 8pm because food goes into storage (fat) while we sleep. Try healthier substitutios when convenient i.e. juice instead of pop. Maybe join some sort of outdoor club if you like nature, or a karate class (very cool, and you can do it with a friend) The only way you'll really lose weight is if you really want to. Stick to some sort of a game plan, and by all means please don't compare yourself to others.

[xxlizziexx]

thank u all for your answers. this is addressed to lock man. i used to talk to my mum aobu tit but she didnt rly do anything she just said do excerise i hate excerise bu ti still did some up in my room, my mum used to then complain that i made to much noise so i had to stop. ive odne pilarites and that didnt rly help. so i havnet spoken to my mum but when she relised that im not eating pudding ( which im not at the moment ) and not eating that many carbs ( becuse they are fatty and so i only have some beaucse your body needs them ) so yes thats what my family say. i havent spoken to my step dad or brothers . ive spoken to my antie beaucse she wanrs to lose but hse she does actully need to. and she gave me some tips but its still they dont all know how down its making me. i put on a brave face infrount of them but im not happy with my weight.

i will try the self esteem and confidence but you wont get me doing any other sports activies outside of my home or school. i get really embassed and i hate doing them so much i cant explain how much i hate them!
thank you all fr your answers more is welcome! hheehe xx

[wonky]

Hiya Lizzie, please keep smiling!

Unfortunatly the ONLY way your going to loose weight (keeping it off and staying healthy) is by burning more calories than you eat that means at least some extra exercise. I have just finished the best book it is called Jemima J by Jane Green its on special offer at the mo in Tesco or on Amazon, it is a fiction book about a woman that weighs i think about 13st or something she hates exercise but by the end of the book she looses weight and it stays off, although this is just a story it is brilliant you should def buy it, i think you may be able to relate to Jemima.

(dont forget walking and swimming are great simple ways of exercise!!)

 

I hope this helps, dont forget the going to see yuor doctor might be a good idea to, please let me know how you get on and if you like the book x x

[natalie_1982]

Lizzie, we've all been there. At 8.6stone you're not overweight anyway and you know that from your last comment about your aunite ("she really needs to"). You have to realise that to lose weight it's simple, exericise more and eat healthily. I don't think you know as much as you think you do (carbs aren't fatty). I had to totally re-educate myself to lose weight and you have to do the same. I don't want to sound like I'm belittling you but there are far worse things going on than weighing 8stone and if you're serious about losing weight then you shouldn't worry about what other people think, because you should be doing it for yourself.

[Hammer]

The only foolproof way to lose weight is to eat less and do more exercise, and to lose it slowly.

Try not to take any notice of fad diets like Atkins - there is absolutely nothing wrong with carbs.

Last thing, ask 10 blokes whether they prefer skinny women or 'normal' women (which at 8.6 stone you definately are), and I guarantee Posh Spice loses out for at least 8 of them, myself included!

 

[bekigee]

To be honest losing weight can be very dangerous if you dont need to lose the weight. We all need a little fat for very good reason. When you are very slim you are cold, circulation not very good, immune system low etc etc. In my opinion there are no diets that work, its about adjusting your lifestyle, eg more exercise, walking, yoga, 20 mins exercise, every day in house if you like before bed and in a morning. I cut out things like full fat milk and went on to semi skimmed, grill dont fry and avoid if poss, eat healthy, yoghurt, fruit etc instead of chocolate and junk! To be honest you are probably fine weight wise and maybe just need to tone up. Buy yourself a video and get going in the privacy of your own bedroom. GO SLOW AT FIRST dont over do it, I went to gym once and went in like Rocky doing all sorts of exercise for 2 hours pumping a lot of weight, could not get out of bed day after, the pain was bad hehe! I started week after with repetitions of 5! Build up exercise slowly and you will see the results in approx 4 weeks, go girl and let me know how you get on. Be determined.

[bekigee]

Oh and forgot to mention, muscle weighs more than fat, therefore someone who is slim but not toned, will weigh less! Toning up makes you look far better, even with an extra few pounds! Oh and a man likes something at least, to grip hold of, majority i feel hate bony women, so its not all that! Be happy with yourself your not heavy now at 8st6.

[xxlizziexx]

erm did someone say about seeing a doctor? i dont understand why i need to. im not ill, i really dont understand about the doctor thing, please can someone explain it to me please! thanx xx

[wonky]

A doctor will advise if you need to loose weight how best to do it, if you dont maybe sort out a bit of counselling. Also docs can give you weight loss tablets but by the amount you weigh i doubt if he would give you tablets!!

 

Illness can be caused by being overweight thats why i think some people were advising that!!

xx

[xxlizziexx]

oo i understand now. i was like im not crazy seriously!! hehe. ok ive had counsoling before, and i stil have it as i am an ex self harmer. i have counsoling at school and used to have theropy out of school beacuse of it. ok well thank you all for the adivce i really mean it : ). i will think about going to the doctors and tell you if i do or not and if so what happened beacse of it. thanx again love u all xx xx

[krissy04]

Lizzie....b4 when u said u lost weight like crazy with no exercise..it wont happen again...ur body is now ammuned..so say if u stop eating ur body will like go on alert and slow down ur metabolism and store every calorie it can..this is bad...u shud change ur diet...eat alot of fruits and vegys..and exercise all the time..this is the only way to loose weight the healthy way. Its hard, but its all worth it in the end..so every night b4 u go to bed...get a routine..start doing push ups and situps..and maybe go running or rollerblading or even biking for a half hour or so..by not eating and throwing up...this can really harm u...even kill u...its not worth it..so loose weight the healthy way ok!..i hope this helped u out Liz...

[xxlizziexx]

thank you krissi04. i no exercise is the best way but i find it very hard, ive always hated it and i know i always will. i cant get to gyms beacuse im to younge, and at school they dont help. i do sit ups 3 times a week now. about 30 -50 each time. ive done 100 before but that was just lucky! hehe. im going to go to the doctors sometimes this week beacuse one of you guys said that it would be a good idea. so thats what im going to do, i used to run on the spot for 5 mins but my mum said i was to noisy, im trying but i keep forgetting to do all my exercise. i have a memory of a goldfish.

im fed up of the way i look body wise, it gets me down so much, so im trying to do things about it jsut taking so long and is so hard to do. im going to have to leave it there beaucse im getting tears in my eyes and my step dad is in here at the moment. thankx again for the advice, always helps : ) xx