Wedding Ceremony

[jmsangster]

Me and my fiancee are getting married in 2011 but we aren't sure what kind of ceremony to go for. He used to be jewish but now he doesnt believe in religion and my family are catholic but, although i have been baptised, i wouldn't say i'm religious and don't go to church. Neither of us are religious but we both believe in God (if that makes sense) civil ceremonies don't really appeal to me because i find them a bit impersonal and not very romantic - also it would restrict the venue. We looked into a Humanist ceremony and it strongly appealed to me however it bothers me that humanists don't believe in God at all. I'm a bit confused about the whole thing to be honest but feel a bit silly when talking to ministers, registrars etc when i don't know what i'm talking about. Has anybody any advice for me?? Thank you in advance.

[sara3]

can't you just choose a place that is special to both of you, and try to get a licence to marry there?

[jno]

sara, I think it's the ceremony rather than the place that's the issue. There are some non-denominational ideas here:

http://www.topweddingsites.co.uk/clergy-offici ant.html

[Lonnie]

If your fiance was born Jewish, thats what he will always be, regardless of his present beliefs.

I don't believe in God, but am jewish.

The Nazis put to death people who they believed had distant ancesters who were Jewish. That fact, in their eyes made that person Jewish.

[jmsangster]

Lonnie: i appreciate that but his mum wasn't born Jewish, she just converted before she got married. As her and her husband are no longer together she considers herself no longer jewish and as nobody in either of our familes is a practicing Jew, a ceremony in a synagogue just feels a bit random.

Thanks every one for ur answers, been very helpful!

[Lonnie]

I appreciate what you say, and you have a ggod point,


Anyway, I wish you both Congratulations and good health.

[beso]

In Australia we have Civil Marriage Celebrants. You can design your own ceremony so long as it includes a couple of mandated sentences by the celebrant.

[saxy_jag]

You could have a civil or humanist ceremony and then, if it's that important to you, have a church blessing. C of E ministers are usually happy to do this, and I don't see why a Catholic priest would be any different.

[coalgirl]

Consult your families.Tell them you want a formal wedding but cannot decide on the venue and then consider their views. At a wedding families should be your best friends. If you do not fancy that idea speak to your local Cof E minister. Generally speaking you will find him (or her) very helpful and not bigotted. There is no reason why a Catholic cannot marry in an Anglican church and I would be surprised if there was anobjection to Jewish people. As Dave Allen used to say ' may your God go with you@'