would it help?

[GINGER BIRD]

i suspect my other half has had a bit of a fling. its all over now tho . do you think itd help if i e mailed her or went on facebook and got a look at her ???

[redcrx]

help who? you? would you want to see her? what if she's very attractive?
why would you email her? what would you have to say that wouldnt hurt you more?

[BUNNY]

You will feel better short term, but will probably look like a mentalist and feel worse long term. Up to you!

[sara3]

I can't imagine why you think that would make you feel any better. don't do it.

[sn�gs]

As others have said... there really is no point... why torture yourself through curiosity... remember it killed the cat ;-)

[jake-the-peg]

I can't imagine which would be worse

If she was really attractive or really unattractive!!

I can't see a good outcome of you doing this - can you?

[craft1948]

I'd deck her.......then him....

[craft1948]

correction......not asked me for a while...

[sara3]

yes, I'd look but then I'd beat myself up if she was younger or prettier.. and if she wasn't I'd be questioning what other shortfalls I had versus her.

it's a no win.

[sn�gs]

''its all over now tho .''

If it is over, it is over... why drag it out.?

Move on.

[cazzz1975]

he would be my ex boyfriend by now, how can you tolerate him treating you like cr@p? matter of time before he is trawling the net for another fling.

[joby1]

maybe she doesnt think its over?.....

I'd wanna see her

[China-Doll]

You only suspect. Therefore lots of heart ache for something that you don't know and the possiblity of accusing an innocent girl. Bad idea all round.

[craft1948]

Space......stop sounding deperate.....

[Androcles]

This is obviously very upsetting and won't, in your mind, just go away. It may well be that it has struck at the root of any trust you may have in him. If that is the case, there is only one way to deal with it, you need to talk to each other, and you have to reach a position where you are happy in your own mind with the outcome, whether it is walk away or stay together.

Pretending that it is nothing will not do you any good and before long, he will know somethig is wrong with the way you are treating him, so better to get it out in the open now and resolve it one way or the other.