marriage

[bubbles4920]

why do some couples that have lived together for years just never get married? do they not believe in marriage? do they think they are committed enough? i am very interested to know people's reasons. some of my friends say it is just a piece of paper so why do it???

[waterboatman]

You've answered your own question. It's only a piece of paper. You do not need it to make the commitment. That comes from the heart. People were living together and raising families thousands of years before marriage was invented by religions that want to control people's lives.

[4getmenot]

Yes marriage is about commitment but then I could stay with my bloke and never get married and still know we are committed to eachother. I am not worried either way. Some people just get married for a party and to have a big day, for some its a day to have their family see how much they love eachother its different for everyone.

[4getmenot]

and some people do it for money and some do it to stay in the country

[Bbbananas]

I'm not against living together - I just don't like the actual living 'together' bit.

I'm not against marriage per se - I just don't want to have to live with the bu55er.

Do you get the sense I like living separate from my men?
You'd be right....

Been there, done that, two & a half times. Doubt I'll do it again. A piece of paper does not keep you together.

[ummmm]

I've never wanted to get married....until now.

[Bbbananas]

to Ginge?
Bless ya xx

He's one hell of a catch umm by the sounds of things...!!
And your adoration towards him is always evident.... x

[Mailmutt]

If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

[sn�gs]

I've been fortunate enough to have been in two long term relationships (not at the same time like!)

In both, neither of us felt the need to get married, although in every other respect we were as good as, and were fully committed to each other whilst together.

There will always be divided camps on this subject... I believe in ''go with what you feel, as a couple, works best for you and s0d everyone else''...

[zzxxee]

i have been with my partner 6years
lived together 5
engaged for 3
no plans to marry no plans not to what will be will be

[Brinjal]

I think marriage is only really important if you have children. I just makes things tidier.

[blackietwo]

Done it once, never again. Live in sin now:) besides aint that keen on wedding cake. Its a real pain getting the divorce, so I would not chance it again for that reason. Oh and the paper work. Divorce is just paper also

[Androcles]

Am I being hard, but looking at these responses, most seem to be committed to not getting committed, or committed until something better turns up........?

[barry1010]

Maybe they're just waiting for someone better to come along?

[pinktwink]

yes i agree i am in a relationship 12 years and we live together as a cople. I am very committed and yes may get married but am in no rush. I agree it is just a piece of paper which amounts to nothing if the relationship goes sour. Commitment is more than that it is a frame of mind and a behaviour. The high cost of weddings and the family stress associated would be a turn off for me.

[Ice.Maiden]

I think it's a very individual thing. Some want that extra committment which they feel a formal piece of paper brings.
I married my husband when I was 18. He asked me, and I said yes straight away. It had nothing to do with the big fairytale day. I just knew that he loved me enough to want it, and we might've been old-fashioned in our outlook, but we wanted to be married before we had children.
It's the best thing we ever did, and for us, it was the right one, but it's not for everybody.

[imhotep]

Hmmmm,if ever I have a lady in my life,which I hope I will one day,I will always be loyal and trustworthy to her.I probably won't have any marriage plans depending on what she thinks.If she likes the idea of marriage then I would go along with her plans.I wouldn't hesitate at all.
I would always commit my life to her.Once married,once bounded for life.I would never cheat on her....honest!!
Plus I would never file for divorce either.
So as I say,when I put the ring on her finger she will always be mine.Unless of course,she finds another man.
If that happens I would be heart-broken......hmmm,maybe getting married isn't a good idea after all..........lol
I will stay with her as normal perhaps!!!!