its been 4 weeks!!

[baggysenior]

i've applied the no contact rule now for 4 weeks today and although i feel sad that my ex hasnt felt me worthy of pursuing i feel happy that i have reached this mark. I'm ssssssssooo tempted to text him tonight, i shouldn't though should i? does it mean that he never cared for me (he told me he loved me a week before we broke!) because he hasnt contacted me ??? please no harsh answers im still fragile.

[cazzz1975]

the fact he hasnt called you should be motivation not to txt him!, If he really did love you then he probably would have called you by now, my guess is he is the controlling one and is probably waiting for you to call him. dont give in, be strong.

he wants you to call him, it confirms you as the weak one who needs him. he is playing mind games!!

stay strong!!!

[grasscarp]

Dont. If you do and he is not very nice you will feel worse. I have a theory that they always come back and it is right. You just have to do other things in the meantime.

[sara3]

4 weeks is a long time and you've done well!

blow it now, and tomorrow will be day 1 again.. don't do it x

[baggysenior]

thanks guys! i can always rely on you. I love him but i dont really like him for what hes done, so i guess you can still love someone wthout pursuing them.( maybe i'm just trying to convince myself that his words werent lies} anyhow, i didn't text him, i'm too old to play mind games, and if he is playing and waiting for me to contact him he'll be waiting a long time.................my mum thinks he's taking time out because his life is a mess i.e daughter moving in, no money, but frankly all of his problems are all of his own making. What goes around comes around i guess. Im still fragile but 100% happier than i was 4 weeks ago!

[888sally888]

I know how hard this is for you. I spilt with my ex about 10 months ago and I still miss him. I make myself think of the nasty things so I stay strong. Good luck.

[baggysenior]

i know its horrible isn't it 888sally888, especially because our relationship ended within an hour of texting nice things to each other! i know it can only get better, but i'm beating myself up with thoughts of him being with someone else now! i can't win! :-)

[cazzz1975]

you have to stop thinking of the nice texts and think about the not so nice stuff, do you honestly think he is sitting at home beating himself up about everything and pining for you??

[Ankou]

keep strong baggy.

as cazz said remind yourself of all the reasons why you broke up. a quick scan back through all your posts over the last few months might help. the relationship was doing you a lot of harm.

[lil123]

Well done you for getting this far !!
Just focus on what you want in your life now !