Ugly Duckling

[Pipkin]

I have a friend who could be very pretty... But unfortunetley she looks like a boy... We have tried to persaude her to change and lets us do her a makeover... I don't want to sound cruel cuz its up to her to be who she wants to be but i know she is also despertae to change but is to scared! Advice is welcome please!

[bballwardy7]

Well if she does want to change then i would recommend you to give your advice to her in a tactful way, so as not to hurt her feelings. If she does not though you should just leave her to look how she wants to.

Putting her on the spot saying you are going to give her a make over might make her feel like the odd one out if you are only doing it for her. It might make her think that you think there is something wrong with her.

Organise a day where all your group of freinds get together and have a make over day - so you all get a makeover instead of just her. With everyone else doing it she will proabably be more likely to experiment and trust you with what you are doing. Also if the group is all doing it to each other then it will make her relax more!

[willow74]

Your obviously good on your PC so why not all get together and use a make over PC software.  Upload all your photos and then you can show hairstyles, make up advice etc on your photos. 

Try this site

http://www.makeoversolutions.com/

[mr. piper]

always remember that people use their appearance as a tool to project to others who and what they are. your friend may feel that her usual look is one that gives her confidence that when someone does get to know her, they will not think she is false. i could not wear clothes that tell people i am rich, i would soon fall on my face, so i try to look as i am.your idea of what she should look like might make sense to your friend, but unless she feels that she can carry it off she won't feel confident enough to do it. try and support her as a person first and ask her how she wants to be seen by others.

[Yinzer]

You know, I used to look like a boy, baggy pants, short hair, swearing and smoking and all. Eventually a friend started lending me some of her things to wear when we were out together and I grew to like the new style. Started buying my own stuff. Maybe this approach could work for your friend, as it's not so much a "makeover" as just getting dressed up in something different today. It may have helped that I was open to experimentation - I'd let her style my hair or pick out my shoes although I really couldn't have cared less.
Is she straight up ugly, or is she pretty in her own way? Because I have also known girls who would be all grunged out, no makeup or anything, and still look nice in their own way.
Ultimately, if she isn't up for it then don't press the issue because she'll feel that you don't accept her for who she really is.