Lonley

[Pipkin]

My mom had a baby 7 mnths ago but the hwole world still revolves around the baby and my stepdad... everything is always mine and my other sister (from prev marriage) fault... Please help me

[Clanad]

I'm sure this must be a difficult time for you.  Funny thing though... human babies require a lot of attention.  Probably just like you required when you were little.  I have no way of knowing your circumstances, but I can only believe your mother love's you more than you understand right now.  It may well be that you haven't really joined in the welcoming of the new baby.  If that's true, why don't you make an extra effort to do so and see what happens? Your Mom could probably use the help anyway.  I can understand the feeling you have of being on the outside right now.  But I also know that this will all change for the better given enough time and effort. Hang in!

[Hyphen]

Try not to take things to heart.  It can often be a real struggle for new mums (and dads) to keep it together and the reason you may feel like your getting the blame for things could be because your mum and step dad are venting pent up aggression.  This doesn't mean that everything is your fault as they're making out but they can't really shout at a baby.

Try and help out with the baby, this should bring you closer to the baby yourself and also take some pressure off your mum and step dad which will hopefully calm them down.

Things will revolve around the child for a while as it's completely dependant on it's parents. Give it time, or talk to your mum and step dad.  They may understand. 

[The Tiggster]

Pipkin, you're question touched me. I have never experienced any of the problems you are going through, but I know that speaking to someone can help. Do you have an older Aunt or friend that you can speak to about it? Or in fact have you tried to tell your mum how lonely you feel? If you approach it with maturity & not with a stoppy attitude she may listen to you. However don't approach her when she's mega busy! Ask her if she'd like to do something just you & her?

Good luck xxxx