Anxiety and worry

[Seadragon]

I am so anxious for my sister in law. She is pregnant - overdue by 11 days, first baby, went into hospital yesterday afternoon, texted me this morning - 7.15 to say that she is 1cm diluted and wants to die because the pain is too much and she still at this time has not delivered!

My heart is pounding faster as I write this - I feel so sorry and extremely anxious for her.

[cazzz1975]

I hope they are keeping a check on her, at least she has access to pain relief if she is in hospital. Hopefully she wont have long more to wait. xx

[stonekicker]

my labour went on for two and a half days, two weeks overdue. the little kicker just didn't want to come out! he's 16 now and still a lazy bugger! babies are unpredictable and with the first you never know. but, we have been doing this for millenia....she'll be alright, just wouldn't want to be in her shoes. bless x try and stop worrying it'll be ok. x x x

[Mamyalynne]

Do let us all know when baby is born and try not to fret, I was a nervous wreck when my daughters were in labour.

M♥

[poodicat]

betcha its a boy

[Mamyalynne]

Aww Poodi, the cycle of life eh?

Take care sweetheart ♥

[daffy654]

I think you mean dilated, not diluted ;-) lol
Try not to worry seadragon, your sister in law will be fine.

[Seadragon]

Laughing - Yes dilated! Diluted would be funny. Sorry I not got back as I went half an hour after posting this to Birmingham to drop my nieces of and ah the M6 was horrendous on the journey there with the weather. Not so bad on the way back.

Still no baby though. I texted my brother 'has she delievered yet?' and he responds with one solemn word 'No'. I gave birth to 3 kids and they were so easy, the middle one literally popped out. I feel really sorry for her, the pain must be so unendurable (have I got that right?, I don't know, I'm so tired now)

Thanks you guys, I had a quick look at the posts before leaving and there were no replies at the time - that for so reason affected me and I was ready now to launch into a really disagreeable speech about Answerbank and anonymous help - but that emotion has been appeased now. Thank you so much for caring.

P.s Poodicat - they usually say that if the baby is overdue the likelihood is that it is a girl (they both want a girl, so fingers crossed). I pray they don't text in the middle of the night though. x

[yogasun]

Hi Seadragon

Hope your s-i-l has delivered by now. Don't worry, they won't let it drag on too long if both mother and baby are distressed to any great level even if they have to step in with a Caesarean Section, not ideal but occasionally necessary. Good luck.

[~Wingnut~]

Hi Seadragon! Ooooo any news yet? I think your brother and SIL are very lucky to have someone who cares for them to be worrying so much :o)

Agree with everyone above, she is in best place with plenty of drugs and experts on hand, hope you get the call soon xx

[Seadragon]

I don't know what's going on? No baby as yet. I called my brother this morning and he sounds really fed up, but then he can't cope with stress that one. (We are hoping that this experience and fatherhood means that 'he will grow up' but personally I think his brain is too padded to allow anymore mental growth). Anyway all he said was 'not until Sunday'. My sis-in-law seems really fed-up and I don't understand why docs not inducing if she has had enough?

If she had it her way, she would have dropped at 8 months. She had a really difficult pregnancy - Poor, poor woman! What women go through? I went to bed last night - knackered - twisted, turned and tossed, finally fell into a deep sleep and awoke around 2.45, twisted, turned and tossed the rest of the night thinking about that little life sucker who doesn't want to face the world - What can that poor woman be going through at least I can get on with the day? I really feel for her.

Again thank you so much and I will keep you guys updated.

[daffy654]

How old is your sister in law seadragon? She sounds quite young and inexperienced from your description of her.
If she isn't actually in established labour and there is no risk to her or the baby then the hospital will not induce just because she is fed up or in pain. 11 days overdue seems a lot but really isn't, I know of women who have gone 2-3 weeks over and not been induced.
I hope for your sake she delivers soon though, you seem very stressed by it all!
You will soon have a tiny nephew or niece to cuddle though :-)

[Seadragon]

Hi Daffy, she's 30 but it's her first and she panicks alot. Like Stonekicker I was two weeks over with one of the girls but I have never heard of anyone being left longer than that as the placenta starts to pack in? I'm just worried for her as I don't like to know that anyone around me is in pain, you know when you want to help as much as possible but there's nothing you can do. I'm keeping myself occupied and hopefully a text will come through soon of the birth. It's this period of anticipation! Although I think its harder work once the baby's born.

We've even given up thinking about whether it's a boy or girl. The little sucker just don't want to come?

[redcrx]

well i went 17 days over with my first so it does happen.

I hope she isnt waiting too long. maybe a walk about or a trip home may help with the pain. Just sitting around in a hospital bed can make the pain worse, plus theres nothing to distract you from the pain

[B00]

Any news?

[Seadragon]

3cm about an hour ago. This is one long labour! I think she'll go beyond stonekickers record.
17 days Redcrx - that's long. Some hospitals give a week max others two but wow above that is amazing. I feel for her because she's a 'pampered princess' and can't take much pain. Hopefully she won't go another night though (fingers crossed).

[redcrx]

dont they say 24 hours is average for first, so some must go longer.

i was actually contracting (but inhertited my mums painless contractions) for 3 weeks. I went in at 14 days over but couldnt be induced becuase of them. I had my waters broken at 8pm on the 16th day and pain kicked in about 10pm. baby arrived at 4.18am.

second one was earlier and a lot quicker lol

at least at 3cms shes now in established labour so they should be able to help her more.

hope the final stages are a lot quicker for her.

[madmaggot]

Some people have a higher pain threshold than others, the staff know what they're doing. Don't worry about the baby being overdue, my 1st a boy was 14 days over and my second, a girl, was 28 days overdue. (I had resigned myself to it never being born!)
With my 1st the labour didn't progress until they decided that I was too tired and needed to get some rest so gave me a sleeping tablet; as soon as I relaxed the labour really progressed and my son was born 2.5 hours later.

[Seadragon]

Yeh, just received a text that she is still 3 cm. That woman has it hard! If she don't deliver by midnight I don't know how I'm going to make it through another night! (laughing) She must be shattered. My longest labour was about 5 hours (the third one) and all pretty painless. Most women I know have around 12-16 hrs.

I might have to watch a film tonight, take my mind off the situation. I don't think she will be having any more children after this one? Poor thing.

[Seadragon]

How can you go 28 days overdue Madmaggot! Isn't that risky? I thought the placenta starts packing up around the due date - no? When I saw my 2nd daughter's placenta, it was one ugly site, mostly grey.

[madmaggot]

She was 'small for dates' and they reckoned she had been dormant for a month when I was about 4 months gone. She weighed 5lb 9oz when she was born.