Love vs Sex

[spiff]

Sorry for springing this one on all of you, but what is more important to you? I'm a 35 year old male who is single,but my life has been punctuated(?) with long-term relationships. I miss love more than sex. Is it just me? xx

[Scarlett]

Spiff.... Are you really a bloke? I am a 35 year old female who is single, but my life has been punctuated with long-term relationships. I miss love more than sex.

 

It is not just you!!

[THFCUK]

i dont think sex has any feeling if your not in love, sex is just sex.  Im in love (just found myself a decent bloke after 4yrs of being a single mum, they are out there!!!) and i realise what i have been missing for the 4 yrs i was single xx

[spiff]

Scarlett, yes i am a bloke. I don't want love at any cost, it's just what i miss! Fair play, sex is nice and good, I just want more than that.

[FP]

If I wasn't old and married I would propose to you!

[Kay]

For me,love is much more important than sex.

[Morrisonker]

The two, are in my mind, complimentary.  Sex without love is by all accounts, meaningless and not something I'm in a rush to try.  Personally I'd need to be in love to have sex (sounding very naive I know, but I'm 19 and in a 2 year relationship, I have known nothing else).

 

On the other hand, I fell in love with my boyfriend about 5 months before we made love for the first time and we were perfectly happy for it to be that way.  The physical side of a relationship can be wonderful, but the emotional support and security means much more to me.

 

So yes, no real answer there ^_^

[Greedyfly]

Love - wins everytime, has to be true love though

[greendog]

Think most people have a greater need for love than sex. However, as �Morrisonker� pointed out, the two certainly complement one another.  I have found that sexual intimacy is of the utmost importance if you wish to maintain that sparkle in a loving relationship.

There was a time in my life when sexual promiscuity played its part, and throughout this period, the more sex I had; the emptier I felt.

I feel that love can endure without sex, but sex without love has a rather short self-life. 

Good luck.

[jills]

love is definitely more important to me, no contest.   That said, sex without love can be utterly fantastic (as a purely lustful, physical act) but I much prefer sex with love.

[smudge]

Just remember: 'Love Conquers All'

[SGKelloe32]

I think it depends on your situation, i have justcome out of a serious relationship and rightnow i dont care for love at all, sex is all thatmatters at the moment, until i decide i am ready for another relationship, then i supposelove will be what matters most then.

[Casey]

I would definitely miss love more than sex, sex is amazing when you're with someone you love

[Casey]

But then again when you're single and out for a good time, sex is very good and exciting! When you're in a relationship, I guess there are certain factors of having a single life that you miss and vice versa.

[n n n neil]

Hello Spiff...I understand exactly how you feel, for I too once asked myself this question, not able to find the answer within myself i asked my closest mates this question too, but they said just the same as the answers you have been given on here. I had been in a straight relationship for around 3 years everything was perfect apart from I felt no need for intimacy. Things started to deteriorate and soon ended, at first I felt my world had ended but then I realized that I only really missed one thing.....Love. I questioned myself again found no real answers untill the day I met my new partner Phil, I am obviously now in a gay relationship, Love is great, sex is even better, now I have my answers life has never been better so for me love & sex go hand in hand, dont worry about it too much you will probably too find you were on the wrong path...?

[spiff]

Thank you all so much for your comments/ answers. Maybe i'm just being too idealistic. To n n n neil, thank you for your comment, but being totally honest with myself, I am hetero. The bottom line with me is that I just want to love and be loved. Unfortunately, the people i meet seem to just want sex. As i've stated previously, sex is a rare and beautiful thing, but without love, it just seems like a "posh *****"!!

[Mr Booboo]

 The thing with love is that people are always looking for it, and often trying too hard. Slow down start enjoying your life and you will find what it is you are after. As for missing love more than sex dont make the often too common mistake of mistaking sex for love or wishing it were and enjoy the two seperate things as their are.  

   Love Kris