For zzxxee, sara and anyone else interested :)

[CAJ1]

I said I would pop back and give an update to this

http://www.theanswerb...e/Question883327.html

Update is as follows...

I have been emailing my Dad, not once has he said he is sorry for what happened in my life or for what he put me through. He is trying to talk to me as if nothing has ever happened. He wrote the other night "I am so glad everything is going so well for you...nice recovery lol" I found this highly inappropriate and made me want to knock the crap out of him! I don't think he meant it in a sarcastic way, I think he genuinely is pleased everything turned out ok but to put "nice recovery lol" was not right. It wasn't a case of recovering, it was a case of making the best I could of my life after he told the police he didn't want me anymore.

Anyway, in addition to this, I found out him and my mum had split up over a year ago. He gave me an address for her and I wrote but I've not heard anything back so I'm guessing I had it all wrong when I thought he was the one to blame.

Despite all this, I know that as an adult I tried to make amends and have some sort of relationship with them both. I'm not hurt, a little disappointed maybe, but I'm surrounded by people who care about me and I don't need my parents to complete my life. I am waiting on my dad to send me childhood photos as I have none and after that I think I will cut all ties.

Thanks to everyone for your comments and advice on the previous thread x

[pericat]

Ah Caj - thanks for the follow up - that was a very inappropriate comment your dad
made probably him covering up any guilt he may have. I hope you're feeling ok and
can move on now - concentrate on your future - your brilliant future as a famous
photographer. xx

[zzxxee]

im glad you have closure and thanks for letting me know good luck with the future hun xxx

[CAJ1]

Thanks pericat :) I'm fine, there's a little bit of me that hopes they both feel guilty for the rest of their lives...it can be their punishment! I think I needed to try so that I knew, now I know, I can move on...onwards and upwards to becoming famous or at least rich enough to leave my desk job and become a photographer lol! xx

[CAJ1]

Thanks zzxxee xx

[mccfluff]

at least you have some answers, even if it wasn't what you wanted. Very weird comment from your dad though!

x

[zzxxee]

i agree fluff most peculiar !!!

[CAJ1]

Every cloud has a silver lining mccfluff! It was probably his attempt at being funny...

[CAJ1]

At first I thought it was maybe me being a bit touchy but anyone I've said to has said similar to all of you. I just sat there and couldn't believe it. If you were sorry you wouldn't say something like that, its like he has no remorse!!