can i stop this?

[bubbles4920]

i used to see a married guy, his wife has our somewhat hot emails and is threatening to post them to my family and work colleagues. can i stop her from doing this by going to the police. we met a few weeks ago in the street and he said hello to me and his wife went mental saying to keep away from him and talking about injunctions. i have emailed in the past to just say hi which he has ignored. im scared people will see what we have said to each other.

[sherrardk]

What did you think would happen if his wife found out? Surely you must have been prepared for some kind of backlash?

[Garmard]

There is an old saying where i come from bubbles
"It will always come out in the wash."
Just tell the truth because no matter how hard you try to keep this affair from your husband and family it will be always nagging at you, the more you have to cover up your story the more you have to lie and you don't want to live a life like that, nobody is worth that.
Come clean and break off seeing this chap and find a decent single man.

[237SJ]

bubbles, maybe the fact that his wife is threatening to send them means she won`t. if she was really going to do it she wouldn`t threaten, she would just send them. Just keep out of their way and I wouldn`t bother emailing him to say hi or anything else. You never know, the wife might have been through this situation before and she threatens these things to get him to change (which he probably won`t)

[bobjugs12]

Bubbles, what are you actually going to lose if this comes out into the open?

[AlBags]

I doubt she'll send anything to anyone.
Makes her look like the evil one! : )
Don't do anything.

[ummmm]

Yeah yeah yeah....consequences and all that yada yada yada.....she hasn't explained the story so don't be so quick to judge. My wife doesn't understand me boll0x...people fall for that you know.

[bobjugs12]

Ummmmm, regardless of whether people fall for a line spun by a Little Bustard of a bloke, they are still adults. She had a relationship with a married bloke, the wife found out, she hit the roof, now bubbles has to deal with the fall out.
If bubbles had been a bloke, and had an affair with a married woman, and the husband found out and whacked him one, i'd also be saying tough luck mate. You made your bed, you lie in it.

[Prudie]

Well we all know what's right and wrong but most of the responses on here must be from the tiny minority of people who have never had something going with somebody else's partner.

[bobjugs12]

Prudie, I didn't say that I hadn't done things in the past. However, i took the black eye and bust nose as a consequence of my actions

[sherrardk]

Sorry Prudie, but I would have thought that MOST people hadn't had something going on with someone else's partner.

[Prudie]

Is that not a man thing though bobjugs and so it didn't bother you too much? I for one was in a similar situation once and i was petrified.

[ummmm]

She still hasn't explained. He might have told he was separated. I was seeing a married man for a few months.....I didn't know he was married until I got a call from his wife. I walked....but it was hard to do it.

[bobjugs12]

Prudie, of course it bothered me, it hurt like hell and i didn't know if it was going to be a single punch or if i'd end up getting glassed. As it was it was two blows to the face then his mates dragged him away.
Saying that just because i'm a bloke I enjoy getting twatted is a bit unfair.

With bubbles i'm not saying she's evil, or the worst woman in the world. What I am saying is society has rules. Some are written down as law, some are unwritten. Having affairs (regardless of which partner you were) goes against these rules; and when you break a rule you should accept the consequences

[Prudie]

I can't quote the figures but I thought the percentage of married people who'd had affairs was at least over 30% and I didn't mean just married people anyway, I meant from starting to have relationships there can hardly be many people who haven't pinched someone from somebody else.I know it's not right I just think it happens a lot.

[ummmm]

But until you know the full story you shouldn't be so quick to judge. Yeah, I was seeing a married man but i didn't know that. Why did I have to put up with all the crap that came with it?

[caila25]

sorry to say but you shouldnt be doing things like that getting involved with married people always comes back to haunt you. x

[ummmm]

Not with me it doesn't. I was mortified when I found out.....

[bobjugs12]

ummmm, in that case you shouldn't. However i read her posts as saying she knew he was married, then after the affair was over she emailed him still "to just say hi" so she knew the full story

[Woody23]

Bubbles - you play with fire - you're gonna get burnt. But it sure gets the adrenalin going!!