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[Tickk]

we have been together over a year, he has always been there for me and always helped me through the hardest of times, why is this time different? i have tried to make him understand i wanted to be treated the same as usual and just to get on with it but he wont accept the fact that i need tablets

[bobjugs12]

Hun, you can post in your original thread.
I should imagine that he's struggling to come to terms with the diagnosis as well. If he's been there then he may well feel like he's failed you

[cazzz1975]

he may have concerns about anti depressants in general, or the taking of anti-depressants may represent that you actually do have a problem and are not just feeling a bit down, maybe he thought you were just having a bad day and that made the problem easier for him to deal with.

now its an actual condition he probably does not know how to deal with it and has freaked out a bit?

[Nosha123]

agree with cazzzz

You need to have a realy calm honest talk with him... no point second guessing his behaviour!

[Tickk]

i have rang him and explained it and i have shown him things on the internet, hes 20 and he is a research doctor in science surely he should understand it anyway?

[Nosha123]

well understanding the condition and dealing with a GF who has it - are two different things.. the second requires emotional involvement.

He is young... and some men are not great at handling stuff like this...

Dont assume he can deal with it any better than you could.... maybe he needs time... or space....?

Has he supported you in other times of need?

[Tickk]

i have had some harendous things happen to me and hes been there been closer than ever and now with needin a pill hes running away

[Nosha123]

well then you need to ask him outright why the medication makes this any different...

Hopefully your illness will be solved and is just a short term thing and you wont have to be on the pills for too long. I would also maybe seek some CBT with a therapist too - as pills are not always the permanent solution to the underlying cause!

Go get some exercise.. eat well.. build up some confidence! 3 really easy things to do to help induce the positive chemicals in the brain..

[Tickk]

thanks for all the help x

[smurfchops]

Keep us posted and let us know how you get on. Good luck.

[Prudie]

Were the things he supported you with in the past related to nervous problems though? My stepfather's first wife (ie my mum was his second wife) had terrible depression and mental illness and he couldn't deal with anything like that at all for the rest of his life, even leaving the room if a film or TV programme alluded to it.