IS THERE A TIME LINE FOR SAYING "I LOVE YOU????"

[keelson01]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a bit over a year now. We live together and I could not ask for a better man. He shows me love and affection always. He tells me I am beautiful every single day and he adores me. The only thing that is bugging me is that he has not said that he loves me. I have told him three times that I love him through text and email which he never responded back. Because he never responded to any of my I love yous, I have not verbally said it to him either. I brought it up last month and he said he could not believe that I think he does not love me and why would we move in together and basically do everything together if he does not love me. It was a big thing and he still never said it so I let it go. My worry is he's 28 and I'm 27 we are moving to New York as I start graduate school in the fall. I am starting to doubt him because why is it so hard for him to tell me that he loves me?

[cazzz1975]

he may find saying the words difficult, some people do. its not that he does not love you it could be that he struggles to say it, maybe he finds declaring his love a bit embarrassing? he is doing all the right things in terms of a relationship so it could be a matter of time before he gets the courage to say it.

[carmalee]

better he doesn't say ILY but shows you in every other way than have it said to you all the time meanwhile he's either playing away or disrespecting you. count your chickens if this is the only gripe you have.

[Eve]

Better all substance and no talk than the other way around.

[helster]

I'm sure he does love you. After all this time and living together etc, why don't you just take the plunge and say , to his face, `I love you, you know.' I bet he appreciates it. x

[jno]

I've been waiting more than 30 years for this, and yes, it does bug me occasionally; but I just have to reflect that actions speak louder than words.

[piggynose]

well said jno