is this bulling?

[xxlizziexx]

if someone laughs at you in your face, takes the mick out of you when your around but never to your face, mimicks things you do and makes them bad, laugh and joke with all the persons old friends that shes taken away, and just genrally makeing her down and hurting her and telling people that she is a cow etc. is that bulling? if so how bad?

[smudge]

Do you mean 'bullying'? If so, I would say it is more like verbal abuse than actual bullying, which in itself is equally as disturbing. I would say that bullying is more of a threatening kind of behaviour, or physical abuse.

This person sounds like she needs to grow up & believe me, she will do when the tables turn & she gets a taste of her own medicine, maybe not now, but later on in life.

If any of the above is being directed at you, is there anyone close that you could chat to - that may help. Don't keep it to yourself as this could make you ill. Good luck Lizzie. -x-

[Englishbird]

I agree with smudge, although i have always seen a bully as anyone who pushes other people around, either mentally or physically.  Every single time, it is because that person has deep set problems of their own, and a total inability to deal with their own problems and so projects pain on to someone else.

There are two ways to deal with it one is to ignore it and the other is to stand up to it.  What you're like as a person will determin which of these you can do.  But smudge is totally right, don't keep it to yourself.

Another truth is that the majority of people see straight through bully's.  So even if this person is telling others that someone is a cow etc, the chances are that they won't believe him/her, but they may be too scared also to stand up to the bully.

Bully's are not worth the time of day.  And trust me - when you get older, they mean less and less and they are the people that grow old with no friends whatsoever.

[smudge]

Hear, hear Englishbird! What comes around, goes around.

[keen2learn]

xxlizziexx, I feel really bad for you. This must be making you miserable, and everything Smudge and Englishbird have said is true. The only thing I would add is that the only way people like your tormentor get thir kicks is by knowing they've got to you. If you can seem as if you don't care, and always try to look cheerful and unconcerned, they will soon give up and pick on someone else. It's very hard to do, but worth it, and somehow pretending can make it true - after a bit, you really will feel better. Good luck.

[PunkDaddy]

I think Bullying depends on the state of mind of the person who is on the receiving end. If it is really affecting you in a negative fashion and is happening habitually then I would say it is bullying. If you can just think this person is obviously bitter about something and either brush it off, or do something about them, then probably not bullying. Whether it's bullying or not it seems something needs doing.

[FP]

Having worked for a long time in schools, Lizzie - this would be seen as verbal bullying.  If it is happening at school let someone know.    I know from your past postings that you are only 14 and are at school.  Take carexx

[Bottom]

xxlizziexx this happened to me when I was at school, If you can just rise above it they will get bored move on to someone else. Good Luck

[teen]

If it feels like bullying it is bullying.  You don't need it to be defined by anyone to protect yourslelf from behaviours that hurt you.