worried

[nextqueen]

should i be worried? saw on computer history that hubby has been looking at porn, affairs in hotel websites and may have registerd to adultfinder website. i can see he has also looked up a woman he had an affair with previoulsy. i want to confront him but also at the same time want to keep looking at history to see what he is up to. what should i do for the best?

[ummmm]

What is wrong with looking at porn? Errrr....nothing! So forget that one.

[nextqueen]

he did look at hotel affairs or something like that!

[Greedyfly]

I guess all you can do is try to trust him again or leave him. If not you will be miserable all the time and always wondering.

[ummmm]

I don't know what that is. Is it a site looking for 'no strings' sex?

Checking out an ex....loads of people do that out of curiosity. Same as porn...both men and woman watch porn. I do sometimes....

It seems it's more of a trust issue...

Do you love him?

[rowanwitch]

Occasionally I google my exes... my ex husband had a fairly high profile in his work so I can see if he's been up to anything new... Wouldn't want to see him again....but I am curious to know if he is ok etc

[nextqueen]

i dont feel anything right now, trying to decide which way to handle it for the best. love has many facets and everyone is individual. we tell each other we love each other nearly all the time. i just feel numb or in shock i think as i was just starting to trust him and now feel very foolish and being taken for a mug!

[ummmm]

Before the shock....did you love him?

[joko]

problem is you will probably never find out the truth now

unfortunately all you have done by confronting him now, with no real evidence, is let him know you are onto him and alert him to cover his tracks better - you will never find anything on th ecomputer again to prove one way or the other

you should have waited until you found more info

(this is assuming he is up to something of course)