can they continue to get away with it

[Gollytops]

my predicament: my partner had a one night stand, she was older and told him contraception didn't matter. However the next morning she informed him she wasn't taking anything. He drove her to a family planning clinic(her idea) that was it, never saw each other again. Mean while we get out acts together and sort out our lives. She phones us seven months later saying she's pregnant and it's his. We have a heated discussion where she tells me she wanted a baby, I tell her " well now you've got one, your on your own". Ten years later she sends in the CSA. We have spent years building up our life and now she is entitled to a % of everything, houses, wages, pensions. If we sneeze she phones the CSA. When are women like this going to be stopped from doing what they want??

[ummmm]

You are joking right?

In the words of Jeremy Kyle 'put something on the end of it'

She is not to blame....they both are. So maybe you should take your annoyance out on your cheating spouse.

[jackthehat]

I'm not quite sure where you ought to have put this.............but am reasonably certain that Science is probably not your best option.

[redcrx]

i suppose your fella was only worried about unwanted pregnancies until she said dont worry, but the thought of STIs never crossed his mind.

CSA is a small price to pay, you could all have HIV.

I do think its unfair that she decided 10 years on to start asking for financial help but both are responsible for this, not just her.

[jackthehat]

I take it that the DNA tests proved that your fella is the child's father ?

[dotty.]

But look on the bright side, she could have been claiming off your eejit other half for the last 10 years, at least now there might only be 6 years to go, 8 or 9 if the kid is bright, but with the combined brain power of your OH and this woman you're probably safe banking on 6 years left.

[dotty.]

Infact I would be tempted in your position to go for a one off none negotiable final settlement lump sum of say £5K and you'll not see her for dust. Mind you, the lack of mention of whether you have kids too and whether your OH cares he has a child he has never seen is a whole seperate issue, what happens when that child marries, has kids, are they going to stay fatherless?

[piggynose]

she was older, and said contraception didn´t matter, ha ha, how old was he at the time? 15 or what. takes 2 to tango.
not to mention std´s etc
you shouldn´t expect any sympathy here

[kermit911]

I guess this could fall under science if you describe where babies come from.

[buildersmate]

Stork.

[tamborine]

grab your 50% & run

[PokerMan]

should be posted in quizzes and puzzles - sound like a right conundrum

[sara3]

I see from your other question that you're both not really understanding the whole contraception thing.

[PokerMan]

how about business and finance?

[tamborine]

Oooops, he's your partner - you aint entitiled to 50%. How many kids has he given you?

[sara3]

tambo, it kind of depends on the result of her other question ;o)