do women really decide in the first few minutes if they will sleep with a man.....

[chinadoll]

Am reading Moll Flanders...and am very intrigued at her observations of how men and women percieve each other and how much some of her observations are still in common currency today....specifically about how women will decide within minutes of meeting a man whether she will ever sleep with him....is this true to any extent????

[Scarlett]

I think that is definitely true!! I think you know within a few seconds whether there is "anything there", and shortly after that (you would have to speak to them!) whether you would like them enough to sleep with them. At least, for me that's how it works.

[Chillum]

Well, if it's true, I wish they'd just bleedin' tell us. It'd save a fortune.

[keen2learn]

Yep. Without having specific implications for actual events or actions, it's generally true that the opposite gender is divided into "Yes, I would/could" and "No, never, not by any stretch", and that the distinction is made instantaneously on meeting. Works for men too, I believe, but what do the men say?

[Shipstabber]

Don't pay too much attention to what Moll Flanders says about women's perceptions - she was written by a man.

[5029]

not in my experience, no

[fairy!]

I've never even thought about this!!  I know within the first coupla minutes if I find someone attractive, but I've never actually stood there & thought "am I gonna have sex with this guy at any point in the future??"

[Cockney_si]

It's good to become friends and then start dating in an ideal world but in my experience there has to be some kind of attraction for the dating to follow.

[Englishbird]

Yes, i think you know.  That's not to say you will - more, you would.  Having said that - it is a womans perogative to change her mind :o) and if 1/2 an hour later he shows himself up to be a prat then you can just as quickly go off someone!!

Is the same true of a man - or does she just have to have a pulse?

[landie]

There's definitely a spark of attraction with some people and certainly not with others.

Men are more into poygamy than women as a general rule, but I guess that women still feel the same electricity.

[dirtyharriet]

I wouldn't take it as gospel. I've slept with men I haven't fancied at first because I've got to know them and liked them as people, then had my way with them.

[El D]

strangely the ability of trash fiction to pigeon hole roughly 50% of the population is rather limited. . .

[Dark Angel]

There is some truth to it. Everyone is not the same but generally a woman would know whether or not she is attracted to the man the moment she meets him. But there are people who have been platonic friends for years and then become partners, so there are no rules.  

[arthurstace]

El D - Daniel Defoe's Moll Flanders is "trash fiction"? How so?

[El D]

in my humble opinion. . .

[Le Chat]

If you sleep with someone who isn't suitable though, it can create a 'false' bond that wouldn't have been there if you had not slept with them. This is why you shouldn't jump into bed too quickly! I find this applies to women more than men unfortunately. (It happened to me in the past, just one time, so I decided that 'it's' certainly worth waiting for!)