Isn't this sad?

[Jemisa]

I've been to a funeral today of an old lady down the road. It was the saddest funeral I've been to because there were NO flowers (not one) by request only 6 mourners 3 neighbours & 3 distant family. She was a widow and never had children, The 3 relatives all lived in Spain & had just come over for the burial. When we got back we noticed there was a single white rose on the doormat.

jem

[boxtops]

We've laid our plans, then nobody needs to fret - it's with our Wills - our ashes are being buried together in a little plot we've already bought.

[ethandron]

moi aussie lottie and squad. cheapest cardboard coffin, just my very nearest and dearest there to accompany me to the crem, no fuss or frills. the only thing me and him want is for both of our ashes to be mixed together and scattered together....because we wanna be together :)
funerals and the whole business of death is such a rip off. cheap and cheerful (or not) for me and him.

[dinkydoo]

I agree ethen, it is a rip of, my husband used to be a funeral director years ago and its all about getting the customer to part with their money and to advertise the funeral directors. We both intend to have the minimal, no flowers, just our 2 sons at the crem and definately no tea party.

[4getmenot]

i was thinking same as sqad, church only packed if you die young, and half of them are drama queens that wernt even close to the person. Maybe the lady asked for money to go to a charity rather than on flowers.

[Mamyalynne]

I don't know that it's sad Jem, as at least her relatives flew over to pay last respects, the most heartwarming part was the rose on the doormat. I like to think it was an elderly gentleman too frail to attend but wanting to say goodbye.

My late husband stipulated no flowers and everyone complied, bar me - was the only time I went against his wishes. ♥

[anneasquith]

i know how you feel jem. when i worked in london, a patient died,on our ward, hed been an inpatient for about 2 years, myself and another member of staff stayed with him when he was dying, he rarely had a visitor. only a neighbour occassionally. at his funeral were 2 ward sisters an enrolled nurse a ward clerkess and a neighbour, he was ther cheeriest patient ive ever known..................... his name was Charles.

[daffy654]

The only people at my funeral will be my oh, my two daughters, my son and my stepson. I have given strict instructions that nobody should inform my mum or my siblings when I die.

[rowanwitch]

I have a small family but younger friends..funeral is planned...and Redman and I have also talked about joint plans... wouldn't expect a big turn out but would like to think there will be a few not there who would raise a glass in my memory... So Sqad...you don't want a tearfui harem to attend with single red roses...only they'd probably save money chartering their own plane....

[wolf63]

Funerals and dying still seem to be 'taboo' subjects to talk about.

My brother and I had our dad cremated and then took his ashes on a road-trip around Perthshire to find somewhere to leave them. It was actually a really fun day out and we ended up putting dad into Loch something or other. My brother took the tub/urn that the ashes in home as it would be handy for the beetroot he was going to pickle. Thankfully he still has it in his garage.

Jemisa - it is sad about the funeral of the old lady, but it would be much sadder if she had no visitors or people who cared about her keeping in touch when she was still alive.

I would really rather not have a funeral - most people go to them because they feel that they should go and not because they actually want to go.

[tamborine]

some have phantom pregnancies

http://www.ehow.co.uk...m-pregnancy-dogs.html

[tamborine]

^^^^sorry - wrong thread

[tamborine]

River Police stopped a couple scattering their father's ashes in the Thames. I'll have mine in the Thames are night.

[ttfn]

Mamya - just for you ♥

[welshlibranr]

Oh yes, very sad!............but thankfully, she doesn't know it................

[Jemisa]

I want my ashes scattered in the countryside in Somerset where I used to play as a child.
I hadn't known this lady long she was quite frail & used to stand at the front gate when she wanted something whoever saw her used to go to help. Her gardener used to come once a month, it was he that found her on the kitchen floor. The people from Spain were her great nieces who had only met her twice. They will be making some more trips now they've got her affairs to sort out & sell the property.

We found out the flower was from the lady that cleaned for her.

jem

[welshlibranr]

Oh well, at least the lady that did her cleaning was fond of her!............very sad!....distant family were very distant obviously!..............

[Jemisa]

I think welsh they'll all be taking a lot of interest now, evidently she didn't make a will & they are her only known relatives.
Reading between the lines I think a bit of greed is creeping in here.

jem