Funerals

[sherrardk]

Just watching Coronation Street and someone has a copy of Jack's funeral service with Jack's photo on the front. At both my mother and grandfather's funerals recently they had their photos on the service sheets too. I thought this must be a weird South Wales thing. How long has this been common practice and why has it become popular (I don't like it personally).

[DTCwordfan]

its so the Welsh can remember who has departed.......the rest of us can......

[redcrx]

My Father-in-Laws photo was on his service sheet. That was 5 years ago

[ladyalex]

Happens up here in Scotland too.
Fairly recent development I think...last 3 or 4 years I'd say.
But I may be wrong as , fortunately I do not attend many funerals.
Cannot say I care for it either.

[hippyhoppy]

Mum had a photo on her service booklet.. It was one of her and my dad in a tux pre children... and my son once commented 'Why is Auntie Caroline with James Bond?' (as my sister is the spit of my mum when she was younger). It still makes me smile when I think of his little comment...

BTW - we're from West Sussex...

[DTCwordfan]

Is that in Wales or SE England - or the USA?

[4getmenot]

alot of my friends had their photos on them

[sherrardk]

DTcrosswordfan - don't mean to be a cow, but don't you think you are being a bit flippant? We are talking about the funerals of relatives and loved ones here, not having a moan about some D list celebrity who doesn't like bugs.

[DTCwordfan]

on their funeral cards or in their wallets. I have the latter - wit on my driving licenses

[DTCwordfan]

Given the original reference by QA to Corrie Street, I would advocate that flippancy is indeed highly in order, with due respect.

[Prudentia]

Funerals are for dead people, and their loving friends and relatives, but what about the unknown lovers and long term devoted loving companions who must stay in the shadows and weep alone.......Prudentia xxx

[sherrardk]

The reference to Coronation Street was included as it was that which got me thinking about the main question. I would have imagined that the reference to both my mother and grandfather's recent funerals would have indicated that this was not a flippant post - that and the fact that it is in body and soul and not chatterbank.

[hippyhoppy]

I must admit sherrardk, it did bring back memories of my mums funeral, and bought a tear to the eye...

[ttfn]

As far as any thread about funerals/bereavememt is concerned I think we should all take care over what we post. I wouldn't be surprised that some ABer today/this week has been in this precise situation. Surely there are ample other posts where anyone can choose to practice their humour?

[welshlibranr]

Hi sher, hope you're well, I don't think it's really a Welsh tradition, my family are Welsh and I have never seen a photo on the order of service of any of my deceased relatives,and sadly there have been quite a few in recent years, I think it's just a matter of choice, wherever you live................

[DTCwordfan]

I did not suggest flippancy on your part - flippancy in replies perhaps given the positioning of your statement and its included association.

Humour and flippnacy have their part in death and memories thereof....along with many other emotions.

I leave you the following thoughts:

Everyone has a name
Given them by God
And given them by their father and mother.

Each person has a name
Given them by their height and their way of smiling
And given them by their garment.

Each person has a name
Given them by the hills
And given them by their walls.

Each person has a name
Given them by the stars
And given them by their neighbours.

Each person has a name
Given them by their sins
And given by their longing.

Each person has a name
Given them by those who hate them
And given them by their love.

Each person has a name
Given them by their festivals
And given them by their work.

Each man has a name
Given them by the seasons of the year
And given them by their blindness.

Each man has a name
Given them by their approach to humour
And given them by their wit

Each person has a name
Given them by the sea
And given them by their death

[sherrardk]

Hi Hippy, ttfn and Welsh - suppose watching Corrie just hit a bit of a nerve really. I also got a letter from my grandfather's solicitor this week referring to him as the deceased and twice referring to my mother as 'your late mother', made it all seem a bit more real somehow (if you see what I mean).

[sherrardk]

Sorry for going off on one DTcrossword fan - see previous post. Don't usually go off on one!

[ttfn]

sherrard - I dont think you owe anyone an apology. Sometimes to see letters written that way is a bit too much to take in. I think many would have empathy with you ♥

[jaydah]

Prudentia, funerals are for anyone who choose to pay their last respects, unfortunately. If only they could be restricted to 'chosen' guests.