What do I do after son comes in stoned

[angry2008]

What do I do? My son has just returned from his mothers and for the second time is stoned, his older brother who lives there is always stoned and she smokes it too. I have a constant battle where it takes me nagging and literally screaming at him to get it out of him that he's either smoked it or been round them when they have smoked it. Should I phone the police? or is there anyway of testing to see if he has actually physically smoked cannabis.

[NazNomad]

http://www.drug-testi...nnabis_Tests.html#a60

How old is he?

[angry2008]

14

[angry2008]

other than a test kit... stuck as to whether to phone the police more importantly and whether they would do anything or not?

[society]

Tomorrow you might regret phoning the police, if you do now. It's best to get a grip on your anger and control your emotions.

[jaydah]

Can your son avoid the visits, in the interest of his own health & welfare.

[MarkRae]

> me nagging and literally screaming at him

Hmm - that really works on teenagers...

[bednobs]

as far as i know, smoking it isn't illegal but possesion is. If he isn't in possession of any, not sure the police will care

[boxtops]

Is he at his mum's on an access visit, or does he just go? I'm wondering whether there is any way to stop him visiting until the others realise it's wrong for a schoolboy to come home stoned.

[Jan1957]

Have you had a word with his mother about it? If yes and it is still happening I would phone the police. Otherwise speak to her now and tell her you will do so if it happens again.

[NazNomad]

He can't legally buy tobacco products until he's 18. Not sure how the Law stands on his mother supplying him with tobacco products (if indeed she is).

[society]

Perhaps they use it for medicinal purpose?

[jaydah]

being in the room of smokers is intoxicating & not necessary to smoke yourself.

[angry2008]

he goes there every night but stays here, and stays there on a saturday night. She is a waste of space who after just getting off the phone to her said that it is not her fault and that shes not given it him... the thing thats annoying me to death is the fact that she seems to think that nothing is wrong in letting my older son smoke it in the house and smoking it when he is there. Its driving me insane now because the relationship with my older son broke down after he decided to get stoned all the time and completely changed his lifestyle... he wrote 3 cars off in six months, trashed my mothers house, who was paying for home help as she is disabled but the lazy git couldnt be bothered to help his grandma, stole over £3000 off her... and I eventually got the police to remove him and his girlfriend from the house. I dont want my youngest following in his footsteps but when his mother and his brother think its perfectly normal to do it what am I supposed to do?

[angry2008]

any suggestions?

[dotty.]

Disown him until he's grown up

[steg]

"What do I do after son comes in stoned"........... make him a couple of bacon and egg rolls, he would appreciate that

[gonzo00]

ya can't disown yer son...you need to be there for him. i'm having the same problem with my 15 yo. son at the moment. as to what to do....either put yer boot up his @rse or wait for him to grow out of it...which he most probably will do if you guide him..not shout at him and criticise him but guide him. good luck!!!

[craft1948]

Is it your son or your stepson...........your profile shows you as being female?

[scotman]

Don't make any decisions when you are angry.

[society]

Grow out of it Gonzo? Usually they move on to something 'higher'...