Was I being moody

[fitforaking]

Im seeing a guy and I'm not sure if he's that into me. He never initiates sex, its always me! I'm the one who's always cuddling him and I'm the kind of girl who likes a lot of attention. Anyway, last night we were sitting watching TV, he was silenced, watching the box, not touching me or even speaking to me but sitting with one of his two cats, clapping the cat and giving the cat loads of attention. Anyway, I was sitting thinking this over for a while, thinking what I could say to him without being moody! All i wanted was a bit of attention. Anyway I lost it, got up and sat over on the other couch, he asked what was wrong and I replied, YOU! I told him i was confused as to whether or not he liked me, asked why he doesnt touch me etc etc, he then got up and said "im going to my bed, come if you want!" I then went through to his bed, he didnt touch me, turned his back on me, and you could have cut the atmosphere with a knife!!! It was awful! This morning we woke up, still an atmosphere. If he gave me half as much attention as he gives his cats i would be happy! Am i being unreasonable??

[B00]

Yes you are!

The poor guy was watching the telly, and, as far as he was concerned you just lost the plot over nothing- he must think you're nuts!

Maybe he's not a cuddly person, I'm not either, it'd get on my bloody nerves someone mauling me and constantly touching me whilst i was watching TV (or doing anything, come ot think of it). And just because he's not a cuddly person, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you.

No wonder he turned his back on you- i'd have done that too.

[zzxxee]

no its always better to talk as honestly as possible in relasionships.

[ummmm]

Cats are soft and cuddly and don't hold it against you if you push them away.

Yes you are being moody. If he's not a touchy feely person....don't try and change him. If you don't like the kind of person he is...find someone else who'll give you the attention you need.

For someone who's not the cuddling type it's very stressful being constantly touched...honestly..!

[Sqad]

The signs seem to be pretty obvious......he doesn´t fancy you.

<<<he asked what was wrong and I replied, YOU!<<<
<<<<I then went through to his bed, he didnt touch me, turned his back on me,<<<

Got it?

[Bbbananas]

Like you said - you're a girl who needs a lot of attention.... maybe you are a little too demanding and he's not as touchy-feely full-on as you are. You need to talk about this....

I must say though, if my BF had a couple of cats and sat with them on his lap every evening, I'd dump him anyway. Couldn't be having that.... no cat lover me....

[fitforaking]

OK thanks,,, maybe i was being moody, i really like this guy but i must admit that I've kind of gone off him since he was so nasty to me last night, turned his back on me and sat with his cats all night! He was a cuddly person to start with, something just seemed to change! I had to say something, I couldnt just sit there wondering what was wrong! I dont think i can be with someone who is into their cats more than me. Its just the way i am! :( Kinda a bit sad about this.... Booooo!!! I'm suppose to be going out with him on Thursday night, its a friends Birthday and there is 4 of us all going out, I think I'll just give it a miss and not go...

[redcrx]

"I think I'll just give it a miss and not go..."

isnt that just dragging out your moodiness? Either end the relationship if you cant handle the way it is or accept and move forward

[Sqad]

fitfor......I have underestimated you......you have got the message and you seem like a nice girl, so now move on.

[tigerlelly]

If he was cuddly to start with and now isn't....doesn't take a genius to work it out. He's obviously the fickle type. Dump him andd find someone who appreciates you.

[LoftyLottie]

I sort of agreed with BOO, until you said he used to be a cuddly person. That changes the picture somewhat.

I am married to a non-cuddly person who gives loads of cuddles to our cat and dog!! He has always been a non cuddly person, but that doesn't bother me in the least. If I had needed loads of cuddles and attention I wouldn't still be with him after nearly 40 years.

[LoftyLottie]

PS That makes it sound that we have rather a sterile relationship. Not in the least ;o)

[missnemesis]

For God's sake fitfor how old are you?

Methinks you need to do a (big) bit of growing up before you enter into a relationship.

After throwing a strop and shouting that he was the problem what did you expect when you went to bed.....hearts and flowers?

As per your question....YES you were.

[ummmm]

He might have been cuddly to start with because that's what you wanted and he was trying to make you happy. Now he's got you....he's gone back to what he's really like.

I know when I got with my OH I let him cuddle me a lot. Now we have an arrangement....don't cuddle me :-) Our compromise, because he's so touchy, is I sit next to him (which I did anyway) and he rubs my leg.

I find cuddling quite claustrophobic and at times quite unpleasant.

[fitforaking]

Haha - tell you the ironic thing about it all... When we went through to his bed, he turned his back on me and it was FU*KING FREEZING, we could have done with the body heat lol but wait for it.... he got one of his cats and took it into bed with him and we slept with a cat under the covers separating us... and then... his other cat came through and was climbing all over the bed, standing on my head, meowing all night long, I actually starting laughing with the sheer ridiculous-ness of it all. Think i got about 1 hour sleep all night, and he didnt get much more than me... Not a good night at all lol... Ah well at least I can laugh about it, its one to be put down in the book of dodgy dates lol x

[ummmm]

How long have you been together?

[LoftyLottie]

'Dodgy Dates'? That signifies that you barely know this fellow. I thought your relationship had got pas the 'dating' stage.

I think ummmm is dead right!!

[fitforaking]

@ Miss - I'm 28. I dont think he would have cuddled me whether i had said anything or not, there was an atmosphere all night... Thats why I had to say something, i felt uncomfortable, surely you understand this??? :/

[ummmm]

How long have you been together?

[B00]

I'm still of the thinking he was sat there after you raged at him, going "what the hell just happened?".

You were both watching TV, then you snapped?

Poor sod, i feel for the bloke- well, not literally, im not a touchy feely person either :P

[LoftyLottie]

I would have gone home and not climbed into bed with him. What were you trying to achieve. It just made things worse.