Does he love me? (large age gap)

[dollx_]

Right, this is really complicated. I like this guy, and i know him well. We get on really well too, we have a good laugh, he compliments me, smiles at me and makes sure i'm ok. Do you think he loves me? The thing is we have an age gap of 14 years :/ you'd never guess though, he doesn't really look his age, you'd think he was in his 20s :/

Sorry if i'm vague, if you need any more information ask :) thanks :)

[dollx_]

oh and i'm the younger one :) otherwise it would make him 2 hehe.

[madmaggot]

Hmmm, an age gap of 14 years? It's all relative really isn't it?
In fact this man is nearly twice your age; if you had been say, 30, I'd say it doesn't matter in the least. As you are so young (yes, even if you are 'mature' for your years) and inexperienced, he is right to keep his distance.
You will change a lot as you grow up; he is already grown. The big danger is that you will just naturally grow apart

[sara3]

you're 16 and he's 30?

my daughter is almost 17, and I'd wonder what a 30 yr old man would be after.. apart from the obvious.

what would your parents think?

[starone]

What is this? 16? Come on!!!!

[askyourgran]

My thoughts too madmaggot, 17 is quite young to be making out with someone nearly twice as old. I would tread carefully there.

[dollx_]

They're ok with age gaps from what i know, they're 7 years apart, and my mums parents had a large age gap over 10 years. I only know this cause my brother has a big age gap with his girlfriend.

[sara3]

what's his line of work, that he comes into contact with you and other teenagers?

he might be in big trouble if anything were to happen.

[dollx_]

and i'm being as careful as i can be. He is decent, he's not a creep or anything. I wouldn't have got involved with him if he was :)

[Jan1957]

Sorry dollx but I think any 30 year old who goes out with a 16 year old is a bit of a pervert. I would stay well away.

[starone]

This isn't another troll is it, because I promised myself I wouldn't get caught again and she only joined today with this her only question.

[TTG]

Why not arrange a group works social evening? Invite everyone along including your friend. You will get to know him then without any pressure. Age does not really come into it. If you are attracted to each other than things will work out naturally. I've become great friends with young women at all the places I've worked.. Age has never been a problem at all.

[dollx_]

troll? sorry if i'm being a pain :( this is/was a genuine question.

[MarkRae]

All of this is pure speculation. As far as anyone else may know, this is nothing more than the adolescent fantasy of a teenage girl, and the object of it (who's now being branded a pervert!) may be totally unaware of it, and may even be utterly horrified to learn of it...

[TTG]

or flattered.

[sara3]

so answer my last question, dollx_

[NazNomad]

I'd say that the OP has a problem with the age gap ... why mention it otherwise?

[venator]

Go for it Dollx - I'm 20 years older than my missus, and we celebrate our 25th next year.

[dollx_]

he's not a teacher if that's what your thinking. It's a music venue.

[madmaggot]

You're right; I know a few men who treat all women as if they were the most beautiful girl in the world. All very nice, but the more mature know it for the flattery it is.

[sara3]

you still didn't answer my question.

what's his job? what's your job?

why is he in contact with lots of teenagers/kids?