Has Facebook caused you relationship troubles?

[AB Editor]

//// Facebook is increasingly being blamed for undermining American marriages.////

//// "We're coming across it more and more. One spouse connects online with someone they knew from school. The person is emotionally available and they start communicating through Facebook," said Dr Steven Kimmons ////

//// Two-thirds of the lawyers surveyed said that Facebook was the "primary source" of evidence in divorce proceedings... not just evidence of infidelity but other legal battles, such as child custody cases in which parents deny using illicit drugs but boast of smoking marijuana on their Facebook pages. ////

http://www.guardian.c...s-divorces?CMP=twt_gu

Have you ever been in trouble, caused trouble, or caught a partner out because of facebook?

Do you think the net effect of facebook on your relationship (happy, or otherwise) is a positive or negative one?

[jackthehat]

Facebook is just another tool in the armoury of those who were likely to -
cheat,
lie,
make indiscreet comments,
trouble-make,
etc,

anyway...............

[milly143]

Facebook doesn't actually do the cheating though does it. It's the idiot people that do that.

I did once discover an ex already had a gf through facebook although that was after I finished it anyway. But I finished it because I had suspicions that were then proved later.

[squarebear]

Anyone who puts personal information about themselves online for all to see must be crazy

[pa___ul3]

facebook is to be thanked for my relationship, I only met her because I spotted her on a mutual friends photo and mentioned she was a looker and it started there!
There have been a few 'discussions' over exes on facebook and things like that but otherwise fine.
It can breed insecurity but if you're not doing anything naughty there's nothing to catch you out.

[ummmm]

No....but I'm not emotionally available so have no interest in chatting to people that way.

The biggest problem we have with facebook is the volume of the games...

[milly143]

The ex's thing is a good point Paul. A while back I was looking at something on their and 2 little pictures popped up in the right hand corner. They were of my bf and his ex taken when they were together. It's not very nice seeing your partner in that way with someone else but I suppose it's just another thing you have to accept when you join facebook.

[milly143]

*there.

[ummmm]

Luckily none of my ex's use facebook....

[woofgang]

never been in or caused trouble...net effect my relationship none. I have heard similar things about Friends Reunited. IMO there needs to be a rift in the relationship first. As far as what folk put on FB etcetera, rule one on t'internet is and always has been (and I remember a world where the www didn't exist) NEVER NEVER post anything that you might regret...once its posted anywhere, you have lost control of it....simples

[woofgang]

well that's unanimous then....

[China Doll]

Facebook is a tool or a mechanism rather than a cause. Generally people that get caught out this way were already having problems in their relationship. Mostly I think people that do this are cowards or lazy and wouldn't have done anything had they not had the access and ease of a computer to hide behind. They're looking for ways out of a relationship but don't seem mature or secure enough to actually have a conversation with the person they're in a relationship with.

That said, there's probably some good done as well in terms of people who have become isolated because of an abusive relationship who otherwise might not be brave enough to get themselves out.

[Oneeyedvic]

My step daughter is on facebook and has caused my wife lots of problems as it was through facebook that my wife found out that her daughter had found her birth mother (my step daughter didn't have the courtesy to inform my wife that she was trying to find her). My wife has been fairly traumatised with the whole affair (she will be seeing a councillor at the end of the month) and I know it hurts her when her daughter puts a post on for her birth mother to make a comment or 'like' it.

But from the other side - I am now in contact with my Sister in Law who I haven't seen / met in 10 years - so facebook can bring people together

[redman41]

I do not have a FaceBook Account and although many find the site useful, it does not appeal to me in the slightest. I do not believe in disclosing all manner of information about myself which remains vulnerable to the Hackers. No matter how secure a site, eventually someone will gain access to your personal details and then it becomes dangerous.

[andy-hughes]

I can see how easy access to old friends who can appear very attractive through cyber-goggles can cause relationship problems, but as advised, it only eacerbates an existing situation.

I don't use Facebook, and I don't know anyone who does - if any of my ex's use it, i know nothing about it, so ignorance is bliss.

[DTCwordfan]

Yes, got my penis caught between the keys of the pc keyboard when she appeared nude on Facebook in front of me.

[mbgklt]

ive had problems, twice now,with my boyfriends ex girlfriends sending me messages, that have been quite nasty. We put that we were in a relationship with each other, but he said he would remove it from his as he didnt want her getting her claws into me. Well i posted something on his (as he said he had blocked her) and now shes sending me messages sayin that he still loves her, wont stop texting her, all that kind of thing. Ive told him whats happened and he went mad, saying i told you not to put anything on fb , i did warn you. Now he wont talk to me, and it seems ive lost him because of it

[ELVIS68]

Friends Reunited is better :o)

[supersuezy24]

Caught my ex out the cheating sh!t